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05.11.2006, 11:37 quote
whizzer wrote: | ||||
Middle England clap-trap. What do you define as drug abuse or even hard drug abuse? My family’s life has been blighted by alcohol abuse. It has been the cause of violence, a massive rift in the family and a number of 'broken' children. You can not say that is a good thing. Just out of interest, have you ever broken the law? Speeding perhaps, illegal parking maybe? I'm sorry, but you can not say that just because something is illegal that it is wrong. In some ways his death is like speeding on a road in bad conditions; most of the time it won't be a problem: but maybe you’re a little more tired, your tyre's are worn and you just wasn't paying enough attention. That's all it takes to get someone killed - life is a risk, he took one and there was bad consequences. The sooner we can have a rational debate about 'drugs' the better the country will be. ps. I'm sorry to hear about the man dying and feel for those that it affects around him. |
I'm not sorry for him dying, and I have done nothing illegal to the nest of my knowledge, no speeding or parking tickets, never pinched anything even as a child.
05.11.2006, 11:49 quote
Ringer2 wrote: | ||||
Smoking, it took me 3 attempts but I did it , been packed up for 30 years now. |
05.11.2006, 11:53 quote
Ringer2 wrote: | ||||||
I'm not sorry for him dying, and I have done nothing illegal to the nest of my knowledge, no speeding or parking tickets, never pinched anything even as a child. |
Then, sir, you have the moral high ground. Of course ignorance of doing something illegal does not mean that you haven't; but if you have nothing to hide then you won't mind us searching you .
All I can say that you are a callous person. Just a little bit of my morality (obviously it is flawed like the law flouting person I am (yes I have exceeded the legal speed limit, but then who doesn't the motorway and why do some in the police advocate that it be raised to 80)); when someone dies there is nothing they can do to affect the living world, everything else is for the family and loved one of that family. Not being sorry for his death doesn't affect him (he's dead, Jim) but it shows a total lack of compassion for those that have been left behind.
I am sorry but you just come across as not having a heart .
05.11.2006, 11:59 quote
Not heartless or callas, my father died in 1993 he was just 55 years old, didn't drink/smoke and never did, he lived a fairly healthy life as well.
He had a heart attack, no previous health problems either, now that is the sort of person I feel sorry for, and not just because it was my father, but he didn't do anything to harm is health as such.
He had is life taken away, a life he did try to look after, but it seems it was all in vain
OK he might have had chips and likes once in a blue moon, then again who doesn't.
05.11.2006, 12:05 quote
Ringer2 wrote: |
Not heartless or callas, my father died in 1993 he was just 55 years old, didn't drink/smoke and never did, he lived a fairly healthy life as well.
He had a heart attack, no previous health problems either, now that is the sort of person I feel sorry for, and not just because it was my father, but he didn't do anything to harm is health as such. He had is life taken away, a life he did try to look after, but it seems it was all in vain OK he might have had chips and likes once in a blue moon, then again who doesn't. |
Maybe I should just say selfish with no basic humanity to understand the feelings of others.
People have died in similar conditions playing squash, I am sorry but the death of your father for not any, apparently, preventable reason is sad. It appears to have affected you badly and for that I hope that you can find a way to move forward from that position.
Wx
05.11.2006, 12:13 quote
First off my condolences and apologies to those who deserve them.
As for the main topic of debate that appearrs to be unfolding here, we have to acknowledge that the 21st century is a more complex environment than ever before; and that extends to its debates on drugs and their usage.
Most ppl who do recreationals tend to be fairly decent and ethical ppl {for the most part}.
With this in mind, consider this for a moment.
Poor farmers are having their families kidnapped, threated with rape and murder, and being burnt out of their homes for not producing particular consumables.
Now if your conscience if comfotable with these facts then at least your a bit more informed than you may have been.
Governments have their part to play, many have been offered to 'buy the problem' such as the Americans in Afghanistan they refused and production went through the roof. Same within the Southern Americas.
What these High level failures of governments to engage, and opt for might and force is the equivalent of using a sledge hammer to kill a room full of black widow spiders - you might get some but you'll get bite sooner or later.
I neither condone nor condem usage, just feel that there's a lot of aspects to it.
05.11.2006, 12:22 quote
Letmein wrote: |
First off my condolences and apologies to those who deserve them.
As for the main topic of debate that appearrs to be unfolding here, we have to acknowledge that the 21st century is a more complex environment than ever before; and that extends to its debates on drugs and their usage. Most ppl who do recreationals tend to be fairly decent and ethical ppl {for the most part}. With this in mind, consider this for a moment. Poor farmers are having their families kidnapped, threated with rape and murder, and being burnt out of their homes for not producing particular consumables. Now if your conscience if comfotable with these facts then at least your a bit more informed than you may have been. Governments have their part to play, many have been offered to 'buy the problem' such as the Americans in Afghanistan they refused and production went through the roof. Same within the Southern Americas. What these High level failures of governments to engage, and opt for might and force is the equivalent of using a sledge hammer to kill a room full of black widow spiders - you might get some but you'll get bite sooner or later. I neither condone nor condem usage, just feel that there's a lot of aspects to it. |
Like I said earlier, we need an informed and adult debate in this country regarding 'drugs'.
Personally I think that the rate of change in society over time is becoming swifter. The generational gaps in morals are becoming larger, unfortunately (unlike the 60s) young people are going to be in a minority and their views are going to be lost.
Maybe I should stand as a liberal (though my sexuality might be held against me ) I would have said labour once but...
*spot the thinking child of the eighties*
05.11.2006, 12:32 quote
Jeggea wrote: |
You're right addiction is an illness, but I read it that the chap wasn't addicted but an occasional user. He apparently died of heart attack which may have happened sooner or later. Possibly he had heart or blood pressure problems he never knew about. I'm not addicted to beer, but I suspect I've drunk more then is good for me over the year's. I should imagine over the years lots of occasional beer drinkers have died of heart attack because of drinking too much on a perticular day. Most of us abuse our bodies in one way or another, sometimes that could be too much exercise. |
yes mate i agree, i guess i was thinking in a wider sense about drugs and there long term effects, but i should have worded it better. but it still stands that in life people often make choices which are not good for them in the long run, and we have all made some choices in life that were either misinformed or not well thought out, so my point being that although it could be considered selfish for a man to take drugs or abuse any kind of substance, they are still human, and human nature is never and never will be anything like perfect, even though some like to try and make themselves appear so with there moral high ground.
05.11.2006, 13:18 quote
handymani wrote: | ||
yes mate i agree, i guess i was thinking in a wider sense about drugs and there long term effects, but i should have worded it better. but it still stands that in life people often make choices which are not good for them in the long run, and we have all made some choices in life that were either misinformed or not well thought out, so my point being that although it could be considered selfish for a man to take drugs or abuse any kind of substance, they are still human, and human nature is never and never will be anything like perfect, even though some like to try and make themselves appear so with there moral high ground. |
I agree...there through the grace of god go we. We can all make mistakes, be wreck less and do things that we later regret. I've got one or two regrets as most people have.
05.11.2006, 14:01 quote
Drugs of all descriptions are always going to cause a difference of opionion like this for one reason only. Lack of credible information. That goes for both user and non users alike. I agree with whizzer that an informed and adult debate in this country regarding drugs is well overdue but fear that any such debate would be overshadowed by the personal and mostly ill-informed views held by the participants. Personally my views on drugs have changed over the years. I'll admit that in the past they held no fear for me and I wholeheartedly embraced the chemical generation and to be honest had a fantastic time. However, I would be be a little less than honest if I said that the amount of time I've spent on nights out with uncle charlie or the once regular weekend diet supplement of disco biscuits had no long term adverse effects. The trouble with the ANTI lobby is that most normal people know that scaremonger tactics are just that, it's like saying to a kid that if you drink beer before your 18 your head will fall off. Naturaly the kid will go and get a can of beer, drink it without their head rolling off and continue to drink from that point forward with a cynical view of any warning.
Surely a more sensible approach is whats needed.
The opening post of this thread speaks volumes. To me it says - Do as you do but there is a chance that anything that you choose to to put into your system can kill you. Sounds like good advise.
Far too many people think that if it's legal it OK and if it's illegal it's the work satan. Remember that South Africa once had a law that was socially acceptable that with hindsight was utterly wrong.
05.11.2006, 20:02 quote
all i can say is what a waste ... i feel for the guy, and the people he has left behind - no-one knows how their life is going to pan out ...
06.11.2006, 10:12 quote
Aurora27uk wrote: | ||
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He drinks, it may only be in small amounts, but it would be interesting to see how long he could go without a single drop of alcohol.
06.11.2006, 10:22 quote
Ringer2 wrote: | ||||
Smoking, it took me 3 attempts but I did it , been packed up for 30 years now. |
How do you know that the guy that died hadn't tried to pack it in? How do you know that this wasn't his last line before he tried again? It took you 3 attempts to give up something that killed a very dear elderly friend of mine a few years ago and is now killing my own mum. Smoking may be legal, but it's a killer.
edited because i agree I was in the wrong to start name-calling.
06.11.2006, 11:51 quote
heystraw wrote: |
you're a sanctimonius old git! |
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06.11.2006, 14:16 quote
MrRaven wrote: |
First off I'll start by saying that this topic has gone way overboard! It started as a simple post to state what happened to someone who took a line of coke and died and has almost turned into a lynching post because someone had the balls to stand up and say he did not feel sorry for the guy that died!
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Somebody is mourning the loss of a friend. You don't tell someone who's mourning you don't give a toss about the one who's died even if it's the truth. Far better to say nothing than to add to someone's loss.
Perhaps on this occasion it would have been best to have kept his opinion to himself. If he felt that strongly, maybe he should have started a different thread on his opinion.
It's not Ringers opinions that are wrong here, but where he's chosen to air them.
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