as simple as saying 'cheer up' and yes, depressed attitudes aren't attractive features, so it's no wonder that so many people are somewhat stuck in a lonely cycle that is difficult to break out of, and dating sites such as this attract many such people.

Then there's the bi polar depressive illness whereby somebody can experience the manic state and appear like the life and soul of the party...... not very easy to explain when they've met people in the manic phase and the next time they meet they're in the doldrums!

Just wanted to highlight that there's a difference between feeling low and clinical depression. We can use a thread for suggestions on how to support our friends, relatives and other forum users.
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I suffer from Body Dysmorphic Disorder and that makes it so much harder to meet someone.

Oooh that's a complex one have you had it for many years?
You've got a lovely profile so may be you'll strike lucky and meet somebody from here and by posting on the forums people will get to know you.
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How do you avoid your reflexion?

Like, even though i enjoy looking at myself in a mirror i cant help it. And, right when you switch the TV off you can see your reflexion briefly in it.

Or on the computer monitor?

or on a spoon?

And what would happen if someone was to point a mirror at you? Would it help give you the boost that you can actually look in a mirror, or would it put your progress back to square one?

Our everyday lives are full of objects that reflect like a mirror and most will give a distorted image too.
It's really hard for us to imagine the distress and anxiety you feel on a daily basis. It's not stupid, because all things like this have their roots in something significant, although it's not always easy to discover.
The important thing is that you feel you are beating it now and so that will open the door to more opportunities for you.
It's good that you're sharing this too as many people associate the condition only with young anorexic teenage girls.
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i suffer from depression getting help with it.im not as bad with it as say a few months ago im getting there and the last few days i have been in such a good humour.when i talk to people about it its like a weight off my shoulders.i feel a good bit better and im thinking positive from now on.i would like to thank the people on here for there advice and been so nice.all ye have been a great help.thank you all

^ Exactly, the more you share the more people understand and the less alone you feel. Once you start to feel more accepted wouldnt it be then that you could brace the courage to look into a mirror?

thats true itae and cheers your dead right.

Anything to help get rid of stigmas and unhelpful generalizations must be good, but those old ideas will only change when people become more educated by those who are brave enough to share their personal stories and how they've managed to/or trying to move on in their life.
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It's interesting that you use plastic spoons so you won't see your reflection. It also shows that you're conscious that a metal spoon would reflect your image, but most people would use a spoon and not even notice their reflection in it (unless they were an artist/photographer used to looking at the world in a different way).
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Cant say I have any of these issues myself. Used to be a bit vain when I was younger, and a bit of a mirror watcher..but that ended about 10 years ago.

But I agree, I know from personal experience, depression is an illness that is not easy to cure, and comes back. Some people dont always know they have it. Doctors can be useless at times at diagnosing it.

This whole subject seems very weird to me... I'm gonna try and say something about it, hoping that y'all won't believe I'm weird about it, because I don't mean to be, I just can't understand some things... And I'm obviously no psychologist/psychiatrist etc.

I know of cases where people just lose it due to stress, chemical imbalances and such...

I got close to losing it myself when I lost my dad, as I wouldn't recognize my thoughts or my words as being mine and felt on the brink of madness. And it was indeed as scarry as hell, and I turned into an almost completely different person afterwards...

Thing is, I fought it myself... And got out of it alive.

What I find hard to understand is how can someone who is completely logical (in speech and everything) have a problem like this?

I know there are explanations, but I just don't see them right now. Jack Nicholson sprinkles into mind, with his OCD syndrome in As good as it gets, but I do believe that's just a natural thing taken to the extreme. I, myself, haven't been diagnosed with OCD, but I surely know I got some tendencies.

I've never heard of people unable to look in the mirror... I wonder if it's the same as when you're an alcoholic or something like that as in, regardless of how logical and such you are, you continue doing it.

I just don't get it. Any help? I don't wanna be weird about it, I just want to learn more about such things, like the topic suggests. So you see yourself in a weird way that nobody else sees when you look in the mirror? OK, but going as far as using plastic spoons and such, to bannish any reflection... That seems so much to me, for someone so logical... Ideas?

Sorry if I offended someone through this post, that wasn't my intent. I'd just like to understand, as I obviously don't get it.