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06.06.2010, 08:05 quote
Can someone tell me why it is okay for women to seek toyboys and men who seek younger girls are said to be perverts? 
06.06.2010, 08:13 quote
Same reason women who sleep around are called sluts and men who sleep around are called studs.
LOL
Apparently later in life roles change. 
As in when women are young it's easier for them to pull than for men (or so it seems), so men who pull a lot may be considered brave... Men age better than women so then it becomes harder for women to pull...
Peace !
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06.06.2010, 10:38 quote
| Bliss23 wrote: |
| Same reason women who sleep around are called sluts and men who sleep around are called studs.
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Haha! I like that bit bliss.... so true
However I do think there will always be those people who disapprove of ANY obvious age gap, whereas I take the view that no matter what age difference there is bewteen two people it's ultimately about people being happy with each other.
I'm not sure that men do age better than women tho bliss 'cos I come across many men in their late 30s and 40s that not only look old but they're old in their ways too..... they seem to have killed off their inner child long ago or project a strong aura of negativity both of which I choose not to have in my life more than I have to.
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06.06.2010, 18:44 quote
| wellblowme wrote: |
| Can someone tell me why it is okay for women to seek toyboys and men who seek younger girls are said to be perverts? |
I wasn't aware that it was ok for women to seek toyboys...it all seems a bit sad and pathetic, whichever way the age gap.
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13.06.2010, 08:14 quote
Hi!
| wellblowme wrote: |
| Can someone tell me why it is okay for women to seek toyboys and men who seek younger girls are said to be perverts? |
It's just a stereotype, cliche, convenient way of thinking for those who can't admit such sort of relations
Just look:
| baggiebhoy wrote: |
| I wasn't aware that it was ok for women to seek toyboys...it all seems a bit sad and pathetic, whichever way the age gap. |
The only remark is I dislike the expression 'toyboy', I've never reckoned my ex (difference by 6 years) and guy who I'd met past year (7 years) as 'toys', henceforth I will not (lol, it could be logically to presume 8 years' next gap).
I just assume that younger men are more flexible in their mentality, but probably it's only my whimsey! Thus men after younger ladies seem to look for unexperienced souls to get them forged by their own hands...
Best wishes!
13.06.2010, 11:58 quote
I wouldn't have said those age gaps were sufficient to meet the word toyboy anyway.
13.06.2010, 18:46 quote
| wellblowme wrote: |
| Can someone tell me why it is okay for women to seek toyboys and men who seek younger girls are said to be perverts? |
I am not sure that its any more acceptable in some circles to be a an older woman with a young male partner, than an older man with a younger female partner. Also, this is not just limited to heterosexuals. Is it any more acceptable for instance, to be an older woman with a much younger woman? An older man with a much younger man?
I think you would find that there would be disapproval in some form or another whatever the love of the partner is from their families, especially if the older person has grown up children. I suppose one reason for this could be, justified or not, that an older person is often expected to be more experienced, wise and worldly than someone 20 or 30 years younger.
21.06.2010, 22:40 quote
you really think its wrong and sad?? surley its all about chemistry and love does it really matter what age two people are if they consenting adults and are happy
i am 35 and probably look a little younger so often get chatted up by and date younger guys. i have an ex i was with a year and a half and he was 14 years younger (21) although he looked older so nobody batted an eyelid we had an amaizing relashionship and we adored each other and had loads of fun. the only problem is obviously different stages in life .... i want a family and he hadnt felt the need yet
i think your being very narrow minded everyone is different some people are old before there time and others are young and playfull right to the end. if you find someone to make you smile thats all that matters
22.06.2010, 18:34 quote
| CMISO wrote: |
| I wouldn't have said those age gaps were sufficient to meet the word toyboy anyway. |
Indeed. The age gap in my own relationship is 4 1/2 years, I was thinking twenty years or more with my comment.
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23.06.2010, 08:15 quote
| wellblowme wrote: |
| Can someone tell me why it is okay for women to seek toyboys and men who seek younger girls are said to be perverts? |
It does happen, and the atitude seems rife on the net. The forums I go on anyway. Even on here I had a few insulting remarks because I chatted to some younger ladies on here..and wasnt interested in messaging or meeting them.
There's nothing wrong with big age differences, but if its a big age difference it can only be fun in most cases, imo.
28.06.2010, 10:52 quote
| Bliss23 wrote: |
| Men age better than women so then it becomes harder for women to pull...
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thank god that's not even close to the truth
I love my toyboys
I think the reason why it is more acceptable for significantly older women to date younger men rather than the other way around is that men in general are not as vulnerable. Men are definitely more sensitive on average when they are younger but a 23-year-old guy will be more assertive than a 23-year-old girl. Usually he won't be looking for having babies and settling down therefore he is not likely to be exploited.
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