Hello people im new to flirtbox. However i have signrd up to many dating saites in the past with very little success
Because i have been ill and not working for the last five years i am now much better now however my condition will be life long im looking for work and trying improving my qualifications and trying to get social life again
I satate this frankly on my profiles and that im looking for gf and yet i get nowhere and of course i message to no avail.
im starting to think bugger this why not lie about my health and finances i might get somewhere at least for a casual fling
please advise as im beginning to think being single is the only way for me.
P.S No patronising crap please about making witty chat up lines i have been there got the t-shirt

I don't bother messaging people yet, so I cant say.
But if you look around the message board similar questions to yours have been asked on a regular basis, and there has been plenty of advice given. On this site in particular, and I suspect others are the same. men out number women greatly and there are loads of men that don't get many messages. Have a look around the different sections of the message board and you will see.
Sorry i cant be anymore help.

well there's you.... with all of your "problems" still single.......

here's me.... healthy, outgoing, smart, funny, kind, caring and brilliant in bed if i do say so myself (hey i sleep with me every night....i'd KNOW)..................... still single.

it aint your "problems" that is the problem. it's that most people tend to get overlooked..... for what reason i do not know.... but that's the way it is.... all i can say to you is welcome to the forums and i'm sure you'll meet some friends here...... afterall..friends are more important than meeting a partner.

Hiya thanks for the replies.
I think i may remove some of the negative sounding stuff from my profile but not lie just be not tell everything about myself straight away.
Just mention it when i get chatting too a person.
But i still think sadly theres a stigma against guys on the dole even if its for honest reasons ie:- ill health,disability.
I also agree making friends can be a good start as long as i get more than a friend some time in the future.
Any comment guys?

Ok do u think this applies to you ladies aswell guys would u pass a good looking lady(good looking to your eyes) by if she stated on her profile she was on the dole?i suspect not lol.
Also perhaps i should clarify on my profile that i suffer from a medical condition that causes terrible facial pain and can cause me to be suicidely drpressed when its bad as you had the impression i was just suffering from depression only.

LOl i dont intend to it was just to clarify to yours truely that im not just depressed.
but the question still stands does the same stigma apply to unemployed ladies?

i guess not for women lol.