I don't bother messaging people yet, so I cant say.
But if you look around the message board similar questions to yours have been asked on a regular basis, and there has been plenty of advice given. On this site in particular, and I suspect others are the same. men out number women greatly and there are loads of men that don't get many messages. Have a look around the different sections of the message board and you will see.
Sorry i cant be anymore help.

well there's you.... with all of your "problems" still single.......

here's me.... healthy, outgoing, smart, funny, kind, caring and brilliant in bed if i do say so myself (hey i sleep with me every night....i'd KNOW)..................... still single.

it aint your "problems" that is the problem. it's that most people tend to get overlooked..... for what reason i do not know.... but that's the way it is.... all i can say to you is welcome to the forums and i'm sure you'll meet some friends here...... afterall..friends are more important than meeting a partner.

I don't - that's why I ask.

Growth of a relationship is too generic. I think the honest answer is when people have hooked the partner enough that they won't end it, regardless of the history.

Surely it depends on what you've actually found out. If it were for such things as the initial poster then it could possibly be worked out.

Although, that said, many will hold back things until they know that revealing past history will not end the relationship. This is why we hear about things coming out many years down-the-line. Poeple withhold truths and information until they think it will be okay to reveal. I bet there are many things that people don't know about their current partners and will never get revealed.

Why would someone risk losing what they have if there is little chance of it ever coming out? To play the 'I'm honest' card?

The world is full of with-held truths bordering ever so-cautiously on lies.

Of which, the vast majority of cases point in the direction of love and money.

I don't disagree with anything you've said but its all a kind of utopia, which seems far from reality.

We all tend to speak from personal experience I guess, maybe mine is a little jaded but it casts serious doubts and makes foundations harder to build for future relationships. It begs many questions, not least, do we carry over past issues into new or future relationships - which isn't far from the intial question.

I need a beer...and no...I dont have drink problem.

lol

Darren

Haha...but I have a broad Welsh Rugby ruff kinda sound and you may have a 'oh so cornish' twang.

Now....where's my combine harvester?

Lol.

The night is young.....