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Excellent post. Something to get your teeth into. Right here goes, in order of preference...

Confidence - Not arrogance. There is the finest of lines. A woman who is confident about her sexuality and knows how to use it is a massive turn-on. We're not talking about getting the tits out at the drop of a hat here, its way more subtle about that. Women who do that don't do anything for me, not because they're slutty (though that can work, done right), it just shows a complete lack of imagination. You want somebody that knows all the subtle cues and how to use them to the best effect. Done right it should be like a sexy game of chess between the two of you. Its all in the delivery, and for that you need...

Humour - A sharp wit coupled with confidence hits the spot every time. A challenge is deep seated in the male psyche. If you can exploit that with a bit of humour you won't go far wrong. Cockiness will win a man 99% of the time, even if you wing it. Think Cybill Shepherd in Moonlighting, thats your role model right there. A sense of humour is very powerful, and a great indicator of...

Intelligence - Now I'm not talking a deep understanding of string theory or the ability to recite the value of Pi to 8,000 decimal places here. Just good, honest intelligence. Emotional as well as intellectual. Or just call it the ability to sustain a good conversation. It all ties in to the challenge aspect. As much as we like to show off, men love to be challenged intellectually, again its all to do with the alpha male thing, if you're a challenge we automatically pull out all the stops to attain you (forbidden fruit and all that). If you have confidence and humour then intelligence is a forgone conclusion really, but its where you apply it that counts.

Vunlerability - Its an odd one this, but it works. There are a lot of women out there who still (thank God) appreciate men who are gentleman, and still have that old-fashioned idea of a knight in shining armour. However, if you're too confident then why do you need us? You have to expose a bit of flesh (metaphorically speaking) and give us a weakness, even if its just one. Rapunzel needs to let her hair down or shes going nowhere. This is another one of those things that goes straight to the core of the male psyche, it encourages our protective instinct on a very deep level. Of course, you can have too much vulnerability and that is turn-off straight away. Theres nothing worse than winsome women. As much as we like a challenge sometimes its not worth getting off the white horse for, because you know damn well you'll be saddling up again five minutes later. So yeah, have the odd skeleton in your closet, but don't have a cellar full of them. And while we're at it, lets not confuse this with false modesty, that sets off alarm bells in a mans head (if he has a clue) that suggests that all shes doing is fishing for compliments. Any woman that does that is after a lapdog not a man, and no man worth his salt wants to be a lapdog.

You see? Now thats what we're talking about!

love is in the air....

theonly thing is that its hard to be like that, cos sometimes it would be took too far or not far enough..

thats the main prob with the sexes its either too much of too little

well you girls,i am looking for a woman with a charming personality,a bubbly spirit, a good outlook on life,can be fun and flirty too at the same time.don't go to extremes just yet,give us a chance.