Everybody has the same problem mate. Most of these women are looking for a Brad Pitt lookalike knight in shining armour.

(Although those around the forums tend to be the exception)

<runs in with a fire extinguisher to put out the flames>

...and the next release of this novel will be in the hardback version

I would love just for once one of these elusive non-replying ladies to come on the forums and say why she don't reply...then we'd all get some sleep at night...it confounds me. It's been said that the pm openers like "fancy a shag?", "My msn/mobile number is...." or whatever other twonkish style you can imagine, ok so they dont get replies much.....but the thing that puzzles me is this. The blokes on here that complain of this very problem, they don't seem to be in the twonk genre when it comes to pm-ing people who caught their eye....so it would be lovely for a recipient of a pm from a very nice, pleasant chap with or without a nice pleasant photo saying nice, pleasant things........hey girl! why did you ignore him? huh? huh? huh?

PS I just want to say.....some blokes are like that too....to the point where they even get into convo over several weeks, ASK to meet up...then suddenly treat you like you are invisible (even on the forums)...but heck, it goes without saying that we all have issues in one form or another....some people just dump it on them around them ---- ARE the people who dont reply lacking confidence? How hard is it to write a reply to a total stranger? Is it more about feeling smug and in control? "I've got all these men grovelling to me, and I have the upper hand by ignoring them and leaving them wondering whats wrong" ?? Or is that too deep?
C'mon gals, post here and tell us why you don't respond the nice guys - its killing me all this suspense!!

/* flings a dollop of mud */



I don't care whether women answer my messages or not, and I don't understand why other people get so worked up about it on the forum. For f**ks sake, it's only a dating site, its not like I have a winning lottery ticket and can't find it 2 days before the deadline.

Wanna know why people don't answer messages? Easy. They're not interested. Period. There could be 20 pages of answers to this question in this thread, but the reality is nothing that gets said here is going to change anything - people don't answer because they don't want to, and the majority of them probably never even look at the forum, so there's not much point in mentioning it here except to generate a bit of forum discussion (although this topic has been worn to shreds over the past few months anyway)

*throws more mud, .......and a large anvil

No mud. There is no call for it. You have every right to handle your inbox in whichever way suits you.....and i dont think theres anything more "superficial" than a bloke sending a pm thats been copy&pasted "fancy a shag?" -- actually, thats just plain shallow.
Yes, perhaps your attitude is superficial, but then again who wears their heart on their sleeve and oozes 20,000 leagues of depth to a stranger on a website? We are all superficial in one way or another here.
But I was just wondering, without meaning to be sarky, this is genuine, How long you been single Bliss? It just seems to me that if you genuinely want to MEET someone off here, you are maybe being a tad TOO fussy.....throwing the baby out with the tubwater before even taking a peep......But, like I said, I would not dream of dissing you for the way you handle your mail, we all do it differently is all.
I didn't find Mr Right by being polite to everyone, even the twonky twonks, so if your way works for you, good luck.
And thanks for enlightening me about this!

I couldn't care less who says what when how or who replies to pm's or who doesnt, in all honesty. And I already knew the answer to why don't people answer pm - "cuz they don't want to"......yup fair enough, what intrigues me is "why don't they want to?" thats the difference. Bliss has shed some light on that for me in certain ways, and for that I thank her, totally mud-free cuz that is her perogative to not reply to any which pms she chooses.

PS but can i share the chocolate please, if anyone should fling some your way? Galaxy preferably please, if not a mars bar will do thanks

or she sometimes hounds you for months until you send her one

If Bliss' reply here is anything to go by, there is no *way* of ensuring more replies, surely that's her point? It doesn't matter what you write, whether or not you get a response is entirely at the mercy of the thoughts/decision making of the individual you are writing to? I guess, from the posts here, it just so happens that the majority of blokes on here in the main write to people who have a strict criteria as to who they respond to, and sadly they all fall outside of that?

Personally, I am just a curious bystander (rubber-necker I think is the phrase!) as a) I am a not a bloke woeing the lack of replies to the lovely ladies and b) I am strictly here "just for the forums" - one could say even its none of my darn beeswax, but I love to people watch, and by nature am intrigued what makes people tick...and not reply to pm's......

speaking for myself, ...i've never written to anyone from flirtbox, ..not in a trying to get a date sense anyway. Unless they contacted me first. All good things come to those who wait