I'm going to be so very vague about the people and environment involved here just in case they actually read this.

Background
I can put up with a lot of crap if and when I just can't be bothered with confrontation or if I believe it won't make a difference, and in this case I don't think it will. I'm a bit too nice and understanding and fully aware some of the people around me are taking advantage of this. I'm confident, but when I'm constantly being pointed out the flaws and mistakes I accidently make because I'm not a machine, after a while it knocks my confidence.

I'm intelligent, not all of the time. I have the ability to do so much more, I'm just not offered the opportunities. And when I ask about opportunities, I'm told off by a particular individual who apparently has the power, for undermining them. There are other people around me who, in the past have been through this, discussed this, moved on and then ended up back with the same problem.

The few people who have the power can and do bitch about me, I wish I hadn't noticed this but I also have the ability the read body langauge and facial expressions and I've seen this. At the moment I'm being nice but more quiet than normal, and explain myself and even apologise for some very minor mistakes but not too nice just to help keep a decent atmosphere.

Oh and if I remove myself from this situation I will be poor.

Advice
Now I've decided in need to take action. I have a few ideas but most of them will leave me out of pocket and some may help with my future but again leave me poorer for a few months. But in the mean time I'm stuck in this situation. It's not that bad most of the time because I find them rather funny(I smile to myself and don't laugh and point at them).

However I'm dangerously close to my level of tolerance with this though.

Please do write any thoughts...

And I'll probably to add to or reshuffle this soon.

Hi coldfrothymilkshake easy solution just jack it all in and come travelling with me lol.....

Its hard when you feel you can give so much more and not be recognised as being able to do so,If you work in an office environment or somewhere where you have lots of colleagues theres ALWAYS going to be an arse who seems to go out of their way to make you feel small.I dont know your personal circumstances but it might be better to move on to somewhere else & if thats not an option then you have to decide to either attack or defend,You either speak up and let your feelings be known to all concerned or you sit back and just take the knocks and hope that the situation improves....!
The work situation can be difficult especially if you are the type of person who regularly has bad days and sometimes it can feel like the whole world is caving in on you but as you well know it DOES get better.( then worse,then better,then worse then better AAargh! )...
Have you ever thought about working for yourself ?
Sometimes the money can be garbage and sometimes it can be great but the feeling of not really having to answer to anyone else is great and you can take loads of days off...yeay!
You also need to STOP worrying what work colleagues think of you, because at the end of the day they DONT really figure in your other wise perfect life....
EVERYBODY MAKES MISTAKES !!!!!!!!

There are 2 solutions i can offer.

1) find a new place to work (i assume its work related)

2) Give me the address and i'll come whoop your employer and all involved asses for them.

I would look at option 1 as being the better of the two, although option 2 would probably be funnier.

It's never nice to have to do things you know your better than, so i would use your intellect and aim higher.. go for promotion or find a more challenging job / department !!
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Go with what you feel, which is about (probably) doing some training (am I right?) in order for you to move on to another job role. As you say, it may mean you tighten your purse strings for a few months, but that can be done. Find cheaper ways of spending your time for a while. Doing a course or training will help you get out of that particular situation and will probably add another string to your bow. Anything that allows you to spread your wings wider is going to enable you to fly higher, so do it and don't look back.

This is quite hard and I'm sorry to hear it.

I do not know the exact situation, what your role is there and so on, but in my opinion...

The best solution is attitude. I do not understand why you care so much about what they say. What is the worst thing that could happen? Get fired? You want to leave anyway (although that would make you poor, as you say, at least for a few months).

If I were you I wouldn't care, but then again I only care about extremely few people's opinions (can actually count them on one hand + guys I'm into, of course, coz I apparently can't shake that off) and sometimes not even theirs, when I'm really sure I am right and they are wrong.

Ignoring them hurts them worst, I've learned that a while ago, but if we're talking about your boss, and if you're saying that you really want to leave that place... Then, in the end, perhaps you should start making plans to move.

Don't let them get you down though.

Here's a song for you. May seem crappy, but it's actually true:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM

Best of luck to you, with whatever you choose to do !

Oh and one other thing: I'm a perfectionist and extremely competitive so in the fields that I know like the back of my hand I sometimes bring my friends down (although I never do it unless they really ask for it and contradict me). My best friend got upset with this recently and I wouldn't understand why, because I'm not doing it to prove she's less smart than me or to hurt her, but to satisfy my own needs for control, intelligence in chosen fields and competition. The only way to fight me is to prove me wrong. Although my friend did get upset because I threw in the fact that I aced a certain test, although still it wasn't directed at hurting her. And I love her very much, it's just the way that I am. I can't even play a game without insisting to win, because I rarely start things in areas I have no ideas about or do not understand.

Maybe that's what your co workers are doing. Hope this insight helped.

Also... If the situation allows you to... Perhaps you can talk to them and tell them that you feel hurt and what is hurting you and how you would like things to be. That works just as good as attitude sometimes.

I know my friend made me feel like shit when she pointed out that she was upset with the situation and what I said, because I could see why she would get upset, even though it wasn't my intention to hurt her.

Thanks for adding to my mini essay

It has been like that for a few months now and hadn't affected me until recently. There are a few who get a bit wound up about it but I'd reply oh it's not important enough to care because I didn't at the time. I appear strong and I am strong(emotionally I mean, physically I look like a weakling) but I have my limits. I reckon I'm just going to be assertive when I need to be, just for my benefit, whilst I'm there. That way no one will mess with me...

I'd like to think it's somehow giving me more motivation to make an effort to do what I want to do rather than just stay in the same thing for years because it's easy for me to do what I'm used to. For me it's about building experience and using my existing skills(because it's easy to forget how to do stuff if you stop) in what I want to do in a job and also on my own. Oh and I don't have the personality or enough knowledge to work for myself to make money.

I'd considered talking about it and might do that but it would have to be at the right time and when I'm calm as well, they're moody (they can be nice as well but I feel it's all a bit over the top) and often contradict what's supposed to be correct/ incorrect. I suppose if they're all stressed out they won't be thinking about their behaviour and how it affects everyone else.

Oh and that song very apt and also reminds me of an old uni friend and memories of trying to pull gay men...

Watch this link to one of my friends (and the series of short colour vids it's linked to) and you will find the solution to your concerns: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cf7dBibJFHs&feature=autoplay&list=PL11FCAF235A2D14CB&index=42&playnext=1