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Home >> Advice >> In my case being honest doesnt pay off
25.09.2006, 19:27 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: |
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lol well although i live in Cornwall i so not have the accent.....!! |
Probably just like I don't have a Nottingham accent....haha...
25.09.2006, 19:47 quote
Ok, fair enough, I'll take your word for it. Don't you just love a cornish pasty though....lol
25.09.2006, 19:57 quote
Good point. Slight de-railiment. Apologies, but they are nice.
Cheeried many a man up.
26.09.2006, 07:55 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| hi people
back to topic does being honest work well when it comes to your employment status if your the male of the species it seems as even with valid reasons like bad health unemployment puts women right off(its like the i have kids does to alot of men). But you cant really lie about something like your job or the lack of because ithe truth will come out in the end . |
You're right mate..unemployment is a big turn off where women are concerned. If someone really Fancy's you then it wont be such a problem..but it can tip the balance if you have been unemployed for a long term. Best not to lie though, because as they say up north [I think], the truth always outs in the end
27.09.2006, 10:33 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| Hi again people.
Last thing im going to ask before i consider changing my profile. Do ladies who are unemployed and state it on there profile have the same problem? PS Redoctober it states on your profile your a university student there is no mention of you being unemployed so your withholding information about yourself so in reality you cannot comment on this subject. |
I would have thought that the fact that I'm a student would indicate that I am unemployed, and I always let people know that I'm not anyway. I've been a full time mum for most of the last 15 or so years. I never have qualms to admitting it.
More guys have problems with my having 4 kids than they do my employment status.
27.09.2006, 13:21 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| Hi again people.
Last thing im going to ask before i consider changing my profile. Do ladies who are unemployed and state it on there profile have the same problem? PS Redoctober it states on your profile your a university student there is no mention of you being unemployed so your withholding information about yourself so in reality you cannot comment on this subject. |
hi again..with regards to witholding information...just because someone doesnt state everything on their profile, does not mean its witholding..After all, profiles are just a way of introducing yourself to others..A rough guide to that person..Striking up a conversation with them is the time to talk about yourself and your position, in my opinon..
I can understand how you feel about things, and that coming across to people is important, but i think the best advice would be to tailor your profile, without lying, to show all your positive qualities and stop worrying so much as to how others are seeing you..once contact has been established, then you can explain yourself and position much more clearly..Everyone has a story to tell, and trying to explain yourself with limited words is very hard..
28.09.2006, 14:40 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| hi again
First off. Sorry if i caused offence to you Redoctober it wasnt intended. Two i guess from the lack of replies from ladies on this forum i would say unemployment doesnt effect there dating chances (talk about double standards).lol I am going to alter my profile so i forget to mention my illness and employment status until i find a job(not lie just withhold imformation) and say im a student(which is true). but i suppose i will regret this but what choice have i eh?. And i suppose i will get flamed on this forum by women for commenting in the employment issue but frankly i dont care. I await your replies lol! |
It's ok SK, I wasn't offended
I think you'll find that most of the regular females in here are actually in employment of sorts if they're not in full time education. I think (tho' i could be wrong), that I'm the only female regular that is in fulltime UNemployment (part-time student as the main of my studies is with the Open University).
You certainly don't have to anounce your illness in your profile IMO. Try to imagine chatting to a stranger in a pub. Would you announce your illness or unemployment that first time? it's unlikely. Just be yourself SK, it's all you can be and join in the other forums too. Make yourself known, have a natter and join in the fun.
Look forward to reading your contributions
28.09.2006, 15:38 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| So Red not only do u need a stella profile on here but u also have to make yourself known on these forums so in effect as well as having loads of choice on here the ladies also want to Vet the men in forums as well. What a bleeding cheek that is. Dont u think?
i wonder how many guys in my situation thats works for then i suppose they end up with lots of female friends but not partners/girl friends and soul mates. Well? |
erm ... wow!! Well, that's a hard lesson I've learnt there. I'll be a little more careful about putting out my hand in welcome from now on.
Well there's a rarity, i'm lost for words!
28.09.2006, 15:51 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| well what did you expect it does appear that these forums are for vetting purposes im sad to say
i have read a number quite a few posts on here before i posted this one and it has been suggested that guys post on here quite a few times to get known on here Sorry if u dont like what i say but thats how it seems like to me. |
Vetting purposes?!! Maybe you don't want friends, but I'm happy with the fact that I shall be going over to Ireland soon to meet 2 friends that I have made on here, and will hopefully be going to see a Rocky Horror Show with 2 others.
If you dislike the site so much, why are on here? You asked for some advice and a number of the members extended a friendly, wecoming hand. Mine suddenly feels very chewed
28.09.2006, 15:57 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| and i did think this was a dating site clearly i was wrong.
dont get me wrong more friends would be great but its hardly the reason to use a dating site |
And how do you know that a person is 'the right one' if you don't make friends first?
28.09.2006, 16:09 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| and i did think this was a dating site clearly i was wrong.
dont get me wrong more friends would be great but its hardly the reason to use a dating site |
Well, i'm only here for friends.
If it were just a 'dating' site, why would they put the option of just looking for friends...?!
28.09.2006, 16:31 quote
| flowerangelaura wrote: | ||
Well, i'm only here for friends. If it were just a 'dating' site, why would they put the option of just looking for friends...?! |
Wish I'd thought of that laura. I might not have got my hand chewed off!
28.09.2006, 16:32 quote
| redoctober wrote: |
| Wish I'd thought of that laura. I might not have got my hand chewed off! |
I have a way with words
Or something.
28.09.2006, 16:42 quote
| skrauq5 wrote: |
| And some of us dont have the luxury of useing this site just for friends as moneywise pubbing and clubbing is not an option. |
I know. I'm unemployed too remember!
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