I think that some things are best left unsaid until you get to know a person a little before confessing to life history's. I am not saying lie or be deceitfull., Jst there is no need to tell someone everyhting on the very first moment of meeting. If they are genuine and really like you for the person you are and you feel that you then wish to tell them about yourself then that is the next stage of the friendship/ relationship. Should they run a mile after you have explained your situation then they were not as genuine and sincere as first thought nd certainly not worthy of you or friendship/ relationship.
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I don't - that's why I ask.

Growth of a relationship is too generic. I think the honest answer is when people have hooked the partner enough that they won't end it, regardless of the history.

hmmmmmm i disagree with that........... if i was in a relationship for say some months then found out.... then i would so be mad!!!! that i would end it at that point...... honesty takes a natural course as does talking and revealing both the good and bad about ones self...... but if something was deliberately held back from me.... just to catch me!!! then i would so be out of there!!!
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Surely it depends on what you've actually found out. If it were for such things as the initial poster then it could possibly be worked out.

Although, that said, many will hold back things until they know that revealing past history will not end the relationship. This is why we hear about things coming out many years down-the-line. Poeple withhold truths and information until they think it will be okay to reveal. I bet there are many things that people don't know about their current partners and will never get revealed.

Why would someone risk losing what they have if there is little chance of it ever coming out? To play the 'I'm honest' card?

The world is full of with-held truths bordering ever so-cautiously on lies.

Of which, the vast majority of cases point in the direction of sex and money.

I don't disagree with anything you've said but its all a kind of utopia, which seems far from reality.

We all tend to speak from personal experience I guess, maybe mine is a little jaded but it casts serious doubts and makes foundations harder to build for future relationships. It begs many questions, not least, do we carry over past issues into new or future relationships - which isn't far from the intial question.

I need a beer...and no...I dont have drink problem.

lol

Darren

Haha...but I have a broad Welsh Rugby ruff kinda sound and you may have a 'oh so cornish' twang.

Now....where's my combine harvester?

Lol.

The night is young.....

Innocent until proven guilty?

A saying much worded in many a relationship.

well since i come from Hampshire...... i hardly think i am cornish!!!
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