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Home >> Advice >> should girls come onto fellas
16.06.2007, 05:14 quote
Love the new pic by the way are87 - meant to say this when it was new! 
Hi jda87 you have a very cool pic while I talking photos.
Can I just say I wished everyone came onto everyone more online and offline. I have tried to chat men up in my yoof and it was fun. No I don't bother cos I am lazy. I would like more men to chat women up too. Maybe it is just the places are go...everyone is crippled by shyness!
16.06.2007, 11:31 quote
| Bams wrote: |
| Love the new pic by the way are87 - meant to say this when it was new!
Hi jda87 you have a very cool pic while I talking photos. Can I just say I wished everyone came onto everyone more online and offline. I have tried to chat men up in my yoof and it was fun. No I don't bother cos I am lazy. I would like more men to chat women up too. Maybe it is just the places are go...everyone is crippled by shyness! |
When I was young, women only really went around in two's, never used to drink much and always wanted to be chatted up by men. It was very easy to chat women up.
I noticed about 15 years ago women started going around in big gangs and drinking loads of alcohol, and not really open to be chatted up. Not as easy as it was to chat women up imo.
16.06.2007, 11:59 quote
| Minijellytot wrote: |
| I believe life is too short so if I like a guy I go up to them, some like it some dont but hey if u wait for some blokes to make the first move u'd be alone for ever.
Saying that i have been told im a tad intimiadating  |
All depends how women approach it, most men have love on thier minds and are always after one night stands if available, so the thing on most mens mind is is she up for it ?
The question of the thread is should they 'come on', which is maybe a bit different then chatting up.
From my experience a women 'comming on' could be intinidating, chatting up is nice. But its always best for a women to get a mate to make the first move for you in a pub/club/bar imo.
16.06.2007, 14:06 quote
| Minijellytot wrote: |
| Where I come from chatting up and comin on to mean the same thing |
Not sure it does where I live, doesn't to me anyway. But then I'm old
16.06.2007, 14:47 quote
| MsIbiza wrote: | ||||
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As Scuba says there is a difference, maybe a London thing. 'Coming on' to me is wanting love. If I said to my mates MsIbiza was coming on to me, they'd think you were after love off me. But maybe nowadays its different amongst younger people.
16.06.2007, 15:03 quote
| MsIbiza wrote: | ||||||||
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Apparently same in different parts of Britain by the sounds of it. probably why some of the views in this thread are a bit mixed.
The first thing I thought when I read your first post, you were talking about offering love to men. Sorry don't mean to offend, maybe I'm a bit thick
16.06.2007, 15:08 quote
| scubawallace wrote: |
| personally I think about comming on to someone as being blatent about it in language and/or body-language, as opposed to chatting up which is more friendly banter and not quite so in-yer-face... |
Thats similar to me......more sexual ??
16.06.2007, 15:18 quote
| MsIbiza wrote: | ||||||||||||
no u arent lol just diff sayings mean diff things everywhere, i should have explained myself more lol |
Thanks.
I know when I go to Grimsby to see my family up there, its only 120 miles away but its like going to a foreign country sometimes, have to watch what I say
16.06.2007, 16:01 quote
| scubawallace wrote: | ||||
yes the way your looking at it I would agree comming on is the more sexually provocative of the two but as I said I think for most of us the two are interchangable, I took the topic of the thread to mean chatting up rather than being sexually blatent. Its just you Jeggea <in london accent> you dirty old man |
I had to think I must admit, but I guessed she probably meant chatting up, otherwise she would have put it in love forum and she is a nice girl and wouldn't post something like that
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But where I come from there is a clear distinction between chatting up and coming on. Maybe its my age but I am a little confused now
16.06.2007, 16:43 quote
| MsIbiza wrote: | ||
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I don't understand why someone should think that. Just starting to talk to someone doesn't mean you're going to shag anyone. It's just conversation, nothing more and nothing less. You can still withhold kissing or love for as long as you wish. I understand that some people might see it that way, but those people are idiots, you still have the option of not making, or rejecting any advances that they might make to take things further.
Initiating a conversation equals little more than moving the 1st pawn in a game of chess. Although I am not good at making the first move, I think it's a very silly thing to be scared of doing, because it's just making a mountain out of a mole hill.
16.06.2007, 16:46 quote
| irishlgirl74 wrote: |
| jus cause i chat 2 a guy or come on 2 him, it dont mean i will sleep with him, curt him ya, i may chat 2 him cause i like him, but that dont mean i will sleep with him straigh away, cause im not that type |
I suppose it all depends on the man, how drunk you are, and what you say..also how drunk the man is. Personally I've had women say hello to me and I didn't think no worse of them.
16.06.2007, 18:02 quote
I dont think there's anything wrong with a female ''coming on'' to a male....''coming on'' meaning chatting to them and saying hello... if you like the look of them! why should it always be left for the male to do.
.. your new ones lovely too, i did say so on another thread 
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