Hmm...the only problem with that is that those who have looked before will have seen what you first wrote and will steer well clear.

Starting afresh........shaggyfest - to begin with you wrote some really depressed, low-self-esteem stuff asking for advice.....you then said "I was having a laugh" which got up my nose cuz I was genuinely trying to help then found out you were taking the mickey....now you are coming across as still taking the mickey or at best having no self-esteem at all. Do you really want a gal to go out with you cuz she feels sorry for you? Thats how it sounds.
So I really don't know what to say.
If you are genuinely hoping some nice gal will notice you here its no good being so self depricating (is that the word?!) and negative.
Also like Bex says sometimes no means no, and we all gotta take that on the chin in good spirit sometimes.
Why not join in some of the other threads on the forums here and get to know more people? (and people can get a better idea of you as well).
But as I said, I'm not really sure what to say cuz I dont know if you are still taking the mick, so it might be best if I dont say anything at all.

Well there are a lot of people who *are* virgins (and self-concious about it) and genuinely think they are ugly and genuinely are very lonely and depressed......so that's not a terribly funny 'joke' - but hey each to their own, and I'm not here to be judge and jury, I'll just tell you how I see it personally.
Posting stuff like "no one fancies me", "I might as well stay at home on my own" very much smacks of self-pity - which is not attractive, any which way one looks at it.
Don't forget that most people on here tonight *are* probably at home alone, which is why they are on here in the first place?
So like I said, how about stick a smile on yer face and join in the forums and 'be positive' - heck even if you don't meet the girl of your dreams immediately, you might just make a few new friends. and that's a good start isn't it?

Sorry when I said stick a smile on yer face I meant it as in "while you type to people" - its a well known fact that if you feel down, if you smile when you answer the phone you come across as a much happier positive person, just was trying to help, is all.
I guess it just sounds as if so far you've not been lucky in that the people you've had contact with so far havent been as interested in you as you are in them.
Shrug it off and try to accept that no matter how much we want something (or someone) in life, we just arent meant to have it sometimes.....it will happen eventually.
You *will* get rejected on this website - heck we all do, *a lot* - you just got to shrug it off as their loss (self-serving confidence booster) and move on.
Being rejected on dating websites is par for the course - if each one of us struck lucky on first attempt, we'd all only be members an hour or two!
Don't give up, think positive no matter how negative it feels at times and sooner or later a nice young lady will jump at the chance to meet you.
I must admit, it is a bit like playing darts in the dark at times though.
Personally, I don't 'reject' someone cuz they are too far away, too old, whatever - if they come across in their message to me as likeable and friendly and interesting then I will reply....I've made some nice new friends here - male and female.

Again it comes down to personal choice. For example, I could be messaged by lots of men from 45 to 55 but turn them down cause i'm looking for someone late 20's early 30's. Just as this lady who was 30 turned you down. She has probably said to herself i don't to date anyone over 35. And distance does matter to some people. I live on an Island so it would be a bit daft for me to want to be with someone in Landsend or Norwich, cause we really would never meet.
Its all about being realistic in what you're looking for. Yes we all would love to date hot, young, rich men/women, But i'm under no illusions about any of that! I just keep dipping my toes until i find the one i want to stay with. There's plenty of time SF.

Unfortunately, the reason i didn't want to chat to you was because of the way you presented yourself at the start. I don't like men who lie, even if it was meant as a joke.

It is easy enough to change one’s profile and there is later no record of any ‘jokes’ or ‘white lies’, but it is a forgotten fact that everything anyone has ever written on the forum is archived for future perusal.

It’s actually quite hilarious to scroll back a few months and see how inconsistent people’s prejudices , opinions, etc are when it suits them, or how they will change their view on certain moral issues (or even physical attributes) that they aired publicly on the forum, especially if someone they fancy the pants off turns up here.

Isn't it a good thing to change or at least re-consider one's opinions/judgements/morals/values etc all the time? I do it frequently (at least the re-think *about* my stance) and this kind of forum is a good place where all sorts of issues come up that make me think "now you've said that"....."well, actually, on second thoughts....".