A friend of mine walked out of her job cuz she bumped into her supervisor in a restaurant and "the ignorant git" ( her words, not mine) completely blanked her.....she wouldn't last 5 minutes on flirtbox - what i'm saying Tzazo is that here you have to develop a thick skin and accept - whether you agree or like it or not - the world is full of people who have a different set of standards as to what is "rude/acceptable/inconsiderate/fair/moral/immoral/amoral/of value/shite/whatever etc etc Thats just life, and here on flirtbox is no different......in real life you have the opportunity to tackle it head on (refuse to work with someone who ignores you in restaurants/ask them outright what their flippin problem is etc) - here the only option really is to shrug it off and move on.

I once blanked someone, not really I guess, just could'nt be sure who she was at the time and was trying to get somewhere else fast, though she held me to account for it later. Indeed later on we got on like a house on fire, which considering she was Ghanian, married and a christian was quite remarkable.....and no I never made a move on her, though I thought she was beautful.

In real life this alienness can be quite a problem, one has to hold ones temper in check, knowing each other us is just trying to do their job.

On one occaision I was working next to some chap, and we where really winding each other up, just through physical posture and the necessities of how we where working so close together. But it took me to realise this was happening and could be avoided, which I got my manager to help with by moving us apart. We ended up quite friendly afterwards.

Well thanks for the advice, not sure how I measure up on messaging.

Frankly yesterday I got fed up and started being....well its funny to me, but talking to someone they suggested it was off. Still it all depends on your sense of humour.
Today I got rather depressed about this whole business, people in the street react to you even if they don't want to talk or like you, here is like everyone down the street is wearing a fixed mask, incapable of expression.

In what experience I have from elsewhere its not until you know you can talk that theres anything to say, the first message is just to reach out and see if theres someone at the other end, who will talk.

I don't copy and past, most messages are pretty much one offs, spurr of the moment, and depend on how I feel at the time, whether I can think of anything, and what I can glean from their profiles.

We shall see.

Wait til you start getting a few replies, start talking to people and it seems to be going really well, then suddenly they cut you off dead and blank you with no explanation 'cos someone "better" has come along..

Then you'll really start to get pissed off.

When talking on line to someone, it is hard to start off, but the best thing is to be yourself, and if people don't like you then they can marry off, cos you are who you are!
I am (slightly) outspoken, so I doubt a female vicar would show much interest in me. (Even though that WOULD be quite cool)
I think that knowing what to say on your first message is something that comes with time, but it sure helps if the person who you like the look of has written at least something interesting on their profile, but I am sure we have all heard that said before.
As for sending messages and not getting a reply, I think the women on here can afford to pick and choose who they speak to as there are loads more men on here than women (also been said before about a million times).
I speak to 'a few' people through here, and it is probably different for me cos I am really not after anything, just banter, friendship, and someone to talk bollocks to, but I have not been ignored after a few messages have changed hands, but I can imagine that must piss you off.....

To be honest 99% of the time I don't think it matters a marry what you say on your first message. Women look at your photo and if you're not good looking enough for them then they don't reply, simple as that.

And THEY call us men shallow!!!!!!

SLAGS!

I don't think that you are trying hard enough, go onto the main site (now) and pick someone at random and send them a message, you never know....

Jog on mate

The women on here, from what I gather from speaking to some of them, get a huge amount of messages every day. It's no surprise - the men far outnumber the women. So obviously, if you have a bog-standard message which doesn't catch their attention, you're going to be blanked. You need to be meaningful and genuine - you send cheesy stuff, bland stuff, sexual-begging stuff etc, and you've got no chance.

Just be yourself and try to show off a hint of your personality - and make sure your profile is truly highlighting your strengths. That's always the final draw.