*throws more mud, .......and a large anvil

No mud. There is no call for it. You have every right to handle your inbox in whichever way suits you.....and i dont think theres anything more "superficial" than a bloke sending a pm thats been copy&pasted "fancy a shag?" -- actually, thats just plain shallow.
Yes, perhaps your attitude is superficial, but then again who wears their heart on their sleeve and oozes 20,000 leagues of depth to a stranger on a website? We are all superficial in one way or another here.
But I was just wondering, without meaning to be sarky, this is genuine, How long you been single Bliss? It just seems to me that if you genuinely want to MEET someone off here, you are maybe being a tad TOO fussy.....throwing the baby out with the tubwater before even taking a peep......But, like I said, I would not dream of dissing you for the way you handle your mail, we all do it differently is all.
I didn't find Mr Right by being polite to everyone, even the twonky twonks, so if your way works for you, good luck.
And thanks for enlightening me about this!

You know... I got to thinkin' some while ago that... Who the hell invented this "MUST BE WITH SOMEONE" thing? I mean I get it that women have a vagina and men have a penis, but, apart from that and procreation... Don't get me wrong... It was just a thought... So who did? Coz I was thinkin' yet again that, apart from the hot action, you're practically searching for a soul mate, someone who'll be there with you for the rest of your life, someone who'll complete you, practically a new family after your old one's gone, right? And... Apart from a penis and kids and hot action, I suppose you could pretty much get the same thing from a friend. So it eventually really comes down to hot action, right? So if it's hot action and babies we need, it's really a question of attraction in the first place... I should write more on this subject, but I'm sure nobody will agree with me. I'm being very superficial today. Go on with the mud throwing.

As for me, being fussy? As I said, my most powerful feelings happened at times I never expected them too, towards people I could never see myself with. I'm just as fussy as the next one. I'd rather be on my own than be in a relationship I don't want to be in. And again, as for fussy... I explained before that the way we pick our mates comes from previous experiences, including those from childhood. We can find ourselves drawn to someone and not understand why. Fussy would probably be not accepting something normal and always going for the best. I could accept practically anyone, as long as I feel myself drawn to them. For what reasons? I sincerely have no idea... It could be anything from a sparkling intelligence, to a beautiful body (which actually includes a cute beer belly if you'll ask me), to being an asshole. You never know. Actually, I do know some of the reasons, but I won't say them here. PMSL

What else? Oh... I once wrote an article on Attraction and what makes it happen. Not that I've got all the answers, but that might be a pretty interesting read, think I'm gonna search for it and post it around, in my own superficial way.


*is now covered in mud and lookin for someone to fight in it with. Oh, and bring on the chocolate too. *

p.s. As for being single... I'm on and off, just like some other 24 year old people I know. PMSL.

[quote="darkhorse57.

Wanna know why people don't answer messages? Easy. They're not interested. Period. There could be 20 pages of answers to this question in this thread, but the reality is nothing that gets said here is going to change anything - people don't answer because they don't want to[/quote]

That's pretty much it in a nutshell!
Bliss is not unique, not by a long way; it goes on in any site you go to and I don't see anything wrong with it to be honest. I know a few women who did answer messages from guys they didn't fancy, out of courtesy...only to get abuse when they said a polite thanks but no thanks!
Sometimes it's easier just to ignore some people!

I couldn't care less who says what when how or who replies to pm's or who doesnt, in all honesty. And I already knew the answer to why don't people answer pm - "cuz they don't want to"......yup fair enough, what intrigues me is "why don't they want to?" thats the difference. Bliss has shed some light on that for me in certain ways, and for that I thank her, totally mud-free cuz that is her perogative to not reply to any which pms she chooses.

PS but can i share the chocolate please, if anyone should fling some your way? Galaxy preferably please, if not a mars bar will do thanks

or she sometimes hounds you for months until you send her one

If Bliss' reply here is anything to go by, there is no *way* of ensuring more replies, surely that's her point? It doesn't matter what you write, whether or not you get a response is entirely at the mercy of the thoughts/decision making of the individual you are writing to? I guess, from the posts here, it just so happens that the majority of blokes on here in the main write to people who have a strict criteria as to who they respond to, and sadly they all fall outside of that?

Personally, I am just a curious bystander (rubber-necker I think is the phrase!) as a) I am a not a bloke woeing the lack of replies to the lovely ladies and b) I am strictly here "just for the forums" - one could say even its none of my darn beeswax, but I love to people watch, and by nature am intrigued what makes people tick...and not reply to pm's......

speaking for myself, ...i've never written to anyone from flirtbox, ..not in a trying to get a date sense anyway. Unless they contacted me first. All good things come to those who wait

No answer is how shall I say this.....well to me its not just rude, its not just inconsiderate its.....alien. That jarring sense of someone utterly different, I get it at work sometimes, oddly enough from a collegue (no I'm not hitting on the guy, being straight, its just an example) who though I work with him every day, neither of us understand the other even though we share similar past experiences.

As for my profile it likely needs work, and there is a picture if your logged in you should be able to see it.

Most of those I've messaged have read the message, those who have'nt either wont look at it or are not logged in, and that makes more sense.