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31.07.2006, 12:18 quote
hi ladytracexx..after reading your profile i think i understand why you thought it was spooky..lol..although i havent described myself in any way, reading what you typed, pretty much sums up where i am at, and feel at the present time..you could have written my description for me! lol
31.07.2006, 18:52 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: | ||
Again Spooky!!! i just saw something in your post that so resembled me! I am sorry to hear that you are at the same period of your life as myself. And although sad, i do feel a little comfort knowing that i am so not alone on this!  |
i am glad you feel a little comforted....
31.07.2006, 19:06 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: | ||||||
No offence taken i hope??  |
none whatsoever...(not even sure how i could have been offended...lol)..
31.07.2006, 19:21 quote
no worries..you wasnt being...i would describe it more as empathic..a good quality.. 
31.07.2006, 19:49 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: |
Yikes!!! it appears i am alos very transparrent!!! oh poopsy!  |
lol..poopsy..
23.08.2006, 11:09 quote
| Ringer2 wrote: |
| Thank you for your words of wisdom Iwantthatname, I can't take long walks or do much exercise (as this is part of my medical problem/s).
The spiritual side of things, well I can see where your coming from, but I don't think it would be for me. I am fortunate enough to have all my limbs and my faculties, Jesus, they do say there is always someone worse off than yourself, but when your deep down with depression, you would obviously beg to differ at that moment in time. |
I suffered from depression for at least two years. Yes the medication helped a lot, but only up to a point. What really helped me was seeing a psychotherapist who helped me to accept what was causing my depression and find the strength to deal with those things. Since my separation (yes the marriage was one of those things!!) I have had the odd 'down' day but no more so than anyone else and have had no return to the dark depths only someone who has suffered from this terrible condition can understand.
For those of you still suffering, all I can say is persevere, lean on those who are there for you and accept all the support you can get. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, even though you cannot see it, or even believe in it. I am so glad that, although there are still many problems in my life, I am still here to live it and have re-discovered how to find joy in it.
24.08.2006, 06:52 quote
| magnoknads wrote: | ||
Chicken soup is also good for the soul. Kalamity - depression usually goes hand in hand with boredom - too much time to think and analyse life. You need to get busy to lift those spirits! |
You obviously know very little about depression Magno. Sufferers of Bi-polar frequently work themselves into the ground, then have periods where they are too exhausted to do anything. Many 'artistes' (pop-stars, actors etc) seem to suffer this and it's the 'up' side that keeps them going. I could rant loads on this subject as I know it all too well, but I won't!
Be sure you know your subject before you dismiss it so easily.
24.08.2006, 10:58 quote
| eccles wrote: |
Redoctober you pressed the right button there! I'm a sufferer too! I'm currently off sick with it now! on high dosage medication absolutely knackered all the time but the brain keeps whirring away!!!! I tend very much to dissapear into a deep hole when i get these bouts and shy away from human contact. My only contacts are one or two people on MSN and posting on FB So there you have it! No physical signs of damage so no one recognises that you are ill! I dont expect sympathy or anything else i've been on my own too long for that  |
Coming through possibly my worst bout ever at the moment. Talking on here and through my OU sites (open University chat forums) is keeping me going. I do laugh and smile a lot still, but when I have the time to relax I nigh on collapse with exhaustion.. so a vicious cycle starts up. You keep going til you drop, but you're too scared to drop incase all the darkness comes crowding in, so you keep going ... til you collapse!!! Bloody mental!! lol
24.08.2006, 11:45 quote
the only description i could give for depression is it's like being in a cave when u know it's bright outside but u can't stand the sunlight. u can keep busy in this cave if u want, u might even forget u're there for a while, but u'll still be in it. the only way out is to figure out why ur'e there, put that to rest then peek your head out and in again until u start to enjoy the sun again.
apologies for the tired cheesy metaphors.
i'm don't suffer from depression, although i have been depressed, and it's different for everyone. what should also be added is that the majority of people during their lives suffer from this, even though a lot of them never admit it.
just a take........and for all those out there suffering at the mo i hope u can come to grips with whatever is causing it.
24.08.2006, 11:55 quote
| nig76 wrote: |
| the only description i could give for depression is it's like being in a cave when u know it's bright outside but u can't stand the sunlight. u can keep busy in this cave if u want, u might even forget u're there for a while, but u'll still be in it. the only way out is to figure out why ur'e there, put that to rest then peek your head out and in again until u start to enjoy the sun again.
apologies for the tired cheesy metaphors. just a take........and for all those out there suffering at the mo i hope u can come to grips with whatever is causing it. |
No apology needed Nig. That's frequently what it's like. As for getting a grip on it, for those that have a cause, it can be done, but unfortunately many sufferers have a chemical imbalance and there doesn't need to be a cause or a 'trigger'.
I know for myself there's frequently a 'trigger'. Sometimes it only takes a word. Most of my depression is learned behaviour (tho' unfortunately not all). Therapy/counselling etc can be a great help there. For those that do take medication or have been recommended it and don't like it, think about how you would treat a migraine. You'd take something for it!! Mental health is the same (in some respects). Don't be afraid of taking whatever help you can.
24.08.2006, 12:11 quote
| redoctober wrote: |
| No apology needed Nig. That's frequently what it's like. As for getting a grip on it, for those that have a cause, it can be done, but unfortunately many sufferers have a chemical imbalance and there doesn't need to be a cause or a 'trigger'.
I know for myself there's frequently a 'trigger'. Sometimes it only takes a word. Most of my depression is learned behaviour (tho' unfortunately not all). Therapy/counselling etc can be a great help there. For those that do take medication or have been recommended it and don't like it, think about how you would treat a migraine. You'd take something for it!! Mental health is the same (in some respects). Don't be afraid of taking whatever help you can. |
Glad you are coming out of the dark redoctober. I agree that no one should worry about taking the medication. My GP monitored me very closely whilst I was on medication and that in itself made me feel better. I am lucky that my depression was reactive rather than clinical so therapy was very successful for me.
I study with the OU too, in my 5th year of a social sciences degree. What are you studying?
24.08.2006, 12:11 quote
for those that suffer due to a chemical imbalance, my heart goes out and should (this is all just opinion) take medication. ... however, (again an opinion), all too often it is too easy to try to patch up problems of a spiritual/psychological nature by prescribing medicine rather than trying to address the root of the cause. i personally have little faith in western medicine to cure things that they don't really understand.
24.08.2006, 12:20 quote
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Glad you are coming out of the dark redoctober. I agree that no one should worry about taking the medication. My GP monitored me very closely whilst I was on medication and that in itself made me feel better. I am lucky that my depression was reactive rather than clinical so therapy was very successful for me. I study with the OU too, in my 5th year of a social sciences degree. What are you studying? |
Um... unfortunately due to having a really bad couple of years with far too many negative events I went over the edge a little while ago and my doc will no longer prescribe anything.
Thankfully it was a one off ... so back to counselling for me.
I'm doing a science degree Vivizara. Only in my 2nd year. Do you ever use the forums? It'd be spooky if we'd 'met' there somewhere too
24.08.2006, 12:24 quote
| nig76 wrote: |
| for those that suffer due to a chemical imbalance, my heart goes out and should (this is all just opinion) take medication. ... however, (again an opinion), all too often it is too easy to try to patch up problems of a spiritual/psychological nature by prescribing medicine rather than trying to address the root of the cause. i personally have little faith in western medicine to cure things that they don't really understand. |
I've looked into various other forms of help Nig but just can't afford it. I have to rely on the fact that I'm normally a pretty strong person. I got accused recently of making a mountain out of a mole-hill. How wrong that person was. Mole hills I can deal with.. 2 or 3, or even 4 not a problem.. but when you got so many come at you in one go they pile up enough to resemble a mountain!!! Had my little flip a few months ago and steadily working my way through the mole hills. I've realised that bashing the ruddy moles on the head before they start on the hill often makes a big difference
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