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07.09.2006, 16:47 quote

ScotsDave
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Just wanted to know do you think a long distance relationship say of 230 miles would it work! Smile

 

07.09.2006, 16:51 quote

Anonymous

yes and no .... mine worked between glasgow and sheffield .. but the time comes when someone has to relocate, and none of us could because for me i didnt want to uproot my kids .. and for him his business and his son were there ....

 

07.09.2006, 16:56 quote

Anonymous

yup i know so, but it would require relocation, i think the hardest thing is missing the other person, but i'd move anywhere and take my little girl with me while she's not at school, only for the right person though Very Happy

 

07.09.2006, 17:00 quote

ScotsDave
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cheekyeyes wrote:
yes and no .... mine worked between glasgow and sheffield .. but the time comes when someone has to relocate, and none of us could because for me i didnt want to uproot my kids .. and for him his business and his son were there ....



So you think one person would have to move then! Crying or Very sad

 

07.09.2006, 17:00 quote

Anonymous

he so was the right person too thats the maddening thing .. but like i said my kids were seetled in school love where we live and i just couldnt them through any more upheaval just for my happiness ( which insidently might not work out ) and i'd have sold my house and end up with nothing ... big risk

 

07.09.2006, 17:03 quote

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cheekyeyes wrote:
he so was the right person too thats the maddening thing .. but like i said my kids were seetled in school love where we live and i just couldnt them through any more upheaval just for my happiness ( which insidently might not work out ) and i'd have sold my house and end up with nothing ... big risk

awwww i'm sorry to hear that, well if fate has it's way you'll meet again Very Happy


and to scot's dave i would say so, unless your happy but i would prefer to be the person on like a full time basis for just general things like hugs when you feel lonely etc, it might work though i've never had a long term relationship long distance so i wouldn't know Smile

 

07.09.2006, 17:04 quote

Anonymous

not right away .. i'd suggest maybe a year or so seeing how you get on first , but i think its inevitable

 

07.09.2006, 17:17 quote

ScotsDave
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moldypeach wrote:
cheekyeyes wrote:
he so was the right person too thats the maddening thing .. but like i said my kids were seetled in school love where we live and i just couldnt them through any more upheaval just for my happiness ( which insidently might not work out ) and i'd have sold my house and end up with nothing ... big risk

awwww i'm sorry to hear that, well if fate has it's way you'll meet again Very Happy


and to scot's dave i would say so, unless your happy but i would prefer to be the person on like a full time basis for just general things like hugs when you feel lonely etc, it might work though i've never had a long term relationship long distance so i wouldn't know Smile



Thanks to the two of you its nice to have an honest answer at least! even if its not the one that i would have liked thanks again Smile

 

07.09.2006, 17:38 quote

Anonymous

Well Dave..Tony and I are approx 1500 miles apart and we are working it..his telephone bill is huge, but he says who cares

 

07.09.2006, 17:47 quote

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Aluria wrote:
Well Dave..Tony and I are approx 1500 miles apart and we are working it..his telephone bill is huge, but he says who cares



Thanks Aluria Smile

 

07.09.2006, 17:56 quote

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Huge phone bills No prob! travelling in this day and age is so easy fast and cheap! i once dated a lady in Edinburgh! a oneway trip of 450 miles! a flight from Exeter to Edinburgh booked on the Net with Flybe 2 weeks in advance cost me £39 return!
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07.09.2006, 18:18 quote

Anonymous

ScotsDave wrote:
Just wanted to know do you think a long distance relationship say of 230 miles would it work! Smile


hi dave..well i do believe it would work, but really does need someone packing up and moving surely..230 miles eh! anyone we know?..lol

 

07.09.2006, 18:25 quote

Anonymous

cheekyeyes wrote:
not right away .. I'd suggest maybe a year or so seeing how you get on first , but i think its inevitable


Not sure if this the same thing, but I met a girl on the net who was 20 years younger than myself, she lived in Kent and I lived In Bolton (near Manchester)

She came to live with me and after 12 months I said let's move to Kent, so then at least she could be near her family (I have just my sister and mother)

The relationship lasted about 2 more years and that was it, we split.

So I don't think time can be a deciding factor here, if I'm wrong then feel free to spank me Embarassed

 

07.09.2006, 18:32 quote

ScotsDave
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53846 wrote:
ScotsDave wrote:
Just wanted to know do you think a long distance relationship say of 230 miles would it work! Smile


hi dave..well i do believe it would work, but really does need someone packing up and moving surely..230 miles eh! anyone we know?..lol



You never know I think you might have idea allready!................. Embarassed

 

07.09.2006, 18:37 quote

Anonymous

I've was in a long distance relationship that lasted for 3½ years. I was in Liverpool and he was in London. It was ok at first, but then because I was doing all the travelling it felt like one tedious cycle. Friday night driving, sat there, sunday driving home , monday - friday working with unpacking & washing & paking again in between, then friday night driving again!!!

(I'm boring myself even writing it! LOL)

I think to behonest it depends on the people involved, the give & take and the commitment from both parties.

When it was all going well the bad part about it was the missing the person in their absence. Its difficult to have all or nothing, and no inbetween... no popping over for an evening, cinema during the week, etc... You can go from a gorgeous high to a miserable low being so far apart.

Anyway - after all that, I'd say - if it feels right - GO FOR IT! If it doesn't work out - at least you can say you tried. Wink

 
 
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