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07.09.2006, 17:51 quote

Anonymous

yes and no .... mine worked between glasgow and sheffield .. but the time comes when someone has to relocate, and none of us could because for me i didnt want to uproot my kids .. and for him his business and his son were there ....

 

07.09.2006, 17:56 quote

Anonymous

yup i know so, but it would require relocation, i think the hardest thing is missing the other person, but i'd move anywhere and take my little girl with me while she's not at school, only for the right person though Very Happy

 

07.09.2006, 18:00 quote

Anonymous

he so was the right person too thats the maddening thing .. but like i said my kids were seetled in school love where we live and i just couldnt them through any more upheaval just for my happiness ( which insidently might not work out ) and i'd have sold my house and end up with nothing ... big risk

 

07.09.2006, 18:03 quote

Anonymous

cheekyeyes wrote:
he so was the right person too thats the maddening thing .. but like i said my kids were seetled in school love where we live and i just couldnt them through any more upheaval just for my happiness ( which insidently might not work out ) and i'd have sold my house and end up with nothing ... big risk

awwww i'm sorry to hear that, well if fate has it's way you'll meet again Very Happy


and to scot's dave i would say so, unless your happy but i would prefer to be the person on like a full time basis for just general things like hugs when you feel lonely etc, it might work though i've never had a long term relationship long distance so i wouldn't know Smile

 

07.09.2006, 18:04 quote

Anonymous

not right away .. i'd suggest maybe a year or so seeing how you get on first , but i think its inevitable

 

07.09.2006, 18:38 quote

Anonymous

Well Dave..Tony and I are approx 1500 miles apart and we are working it..his telephone bill is huge, but he says who cares

 

07.09.2006, 19:18 quote

Anonymous

ScotsDave wrote:
Just wanted to know do you think a long distance relationship say of 230 miles would it work! Smile


hi dave..well i do believe it would work, but really does need someone packing up and moving surely..230 miles eh! anyone we know?..lol

 

07.09.2006, 19:25 quote

Anonymous

cheekyeyes wrote:
not right away .. I'd suggest maybe a year or so seeing how you get on first , but i think its inevitable


Not sure if this the same thing, but I met a girl on the net who was 20 years younger than myself, she lived in Kent and I lived In Bolton (near Manchester)

She came to live with me and after 12 months I said let's move to Kent, so then at least she could be near her family (I have just my sister and mother)

The relationship lasted about 2 more years and that was it, we split.

So I don't think time can be a deciding factor here, if I'm wrong then feel free to spank me Embarassed

 

07.09.2006, 19:37 quote

Anonymous

I've was in a long distance relationship that lasted for 3Ż years. I was in Liverpool and he was in London. It was ok at first, but then because I was doing all the travelling it felt like one tedious cycle. Friday night driving, sat there, sunday driving home , monday - friday working with unpacking & washing & paking again in between, then friday night driving again!!!

(I'm boring myself even writing it! LOL)

I think to behonest it depends on the people involved, the give & take and the commitment from both parties.

When it was all going well the bad part about it was the missing the person in their absence. Its difficult to have all or nothing, and no inbetween... no popping over for an evening, cinema during the week, etc... You can go from a gorgeous high to a miserable low being so far apart.

Anyway - after all that, I'd say - if it feels right - GO FOR IT! If it doesn't work out - at least you can say you tried. Wink

 

07.09.2006, 22:04 quote

Anonymous

ScotsDave wrote:
Just wanted to know do you think a long distance relationship say of 230 miles would it work! Smile


I dated my ex for 2 years long distance, he was 120 miles away.

It just takes a little more planning and unfortunately spontaneity is rare, but it can work.

I agree with the posters in that they say that someone will have to move if things get serious, but you should cross that bridge as and when you come to it.

Pol x

 

08.09.2006, 16:35 quote

Anonymous

just wanna know more about you...

 

08.09.2006, 16:39 quote

Anonymous

just wanna know more about you...

 

08.09.2006, 18:27 quote

Anonymous

ScotsDave wrote:
Since posting this topic I thought I would explain how I felt. I have read everyones post on this thread and traken them all on board. Well i do think they can work, yes i know it is much harder not being in same town city ect. But maybe that can work better for the relationship I have been in relationships where people take each other for granted or just spend time with each other because they can not because they want too. What i want to happen is to make that bit of an effort to see the person you like and to make every minute count when you are with them. To do things because you want to not because you can. Yes you maybe lonely at times but maybe that keeps the love fresh and alive well call me a romantic but that is my hope.............. Embarassed


go with your hope..and follow your heart..the rest is will follow

 

08.09.2006, 18:28 quote

Anonymous

Good on you - hope it all turns out peachy for you.

 

08.09.2006, 22:05 quote

Anonymous

Good luck to u Dave...just remember if Tony and i can do it anyone can...and he is the one that came back and is telling everyone now that he is gonna make this work
luv ya

 
 
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