Hi all,

I just went to see a dear friend of mine last night,and i found her drowning in her own tears. We all thought she was dating the most incredible man ever!
Just 2 days ago she found the bustard in bed with another woman and all he could say was " you should have called me before coming to my apartment".
I really thought he really loved her,and would never do such a thing to her. They have been together for 5years, he was so sweet, romantic, kind....etc..I actually believed that a man could love.....but boy was i wrong.
I guess a man will always be a man!

There are millions of good men out there, they're the ones left by the wayside whilst women chose to date men like the one you mentioned. Don't blame us, it really is your fault.
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I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

Every other post in this forum seems to be having a dig at "douchey" men...

Quite exhausting!

To be perfectly honest I know plenty of genuine and decent men and I'm tired of hearing women ranting on about how crap most of them are.

It's not most...it's a few idiots giving the gender a bad rep.

you know what... i've not too much experience in relationships and that, i juggle a few (openly) at the same time, and i'm too crazy for most but on a recent trip a friend told me something along these lines: (this is the 'do you know what bit') some study somewhere has revealed that sexual attraction (for the same person) dissipates after 3 months.. then the relationship is clutching onto other emotional ties. The thing is we in modern-day think of love as uniamorous.. who said it's to be like that? who said marriages/rel's have to break up because one sleeps with another? becuase it's a shock and not thought out beforehand / taboo. why can't two ppl realise that they have sexual desires that if the other cannot fulfill (through talking abou thte subject / fantasies / desires) they can experience with others? most couples won't talk about their sexual desires i reckon. they'll just do it. it's lacking somewhere. anywya, what i've put forward is not well thought, just a quick break from work, but food for thought it should be. i've not practiced this but i will discuss in my next relationship. cunts.

Naah, we're all dogs. Hate us, flog us, bad mouth us, treat us like dirt and like the ash flicked off a fag. Then, we'll surprise you and go and date someone else!

Ok, this is my take. You get as good as you give. So you get out of a relationship what you put in. I dont believe in all that fruedian shit about love/men/and women. It is simple. And maybe she didnt see it coming, but it was there. Five years they dated no serious commitment, engagement?
Hm, I am really sorry for your friend and she will need you to help her get through it. Best of luck to her!

'alike people are getting together" ."tell me who you date/is your friend ,and I tell you who you really are"

I like when is happening like that. all the bitches screaming:"he cheated on me! bastard!"
what do you want him to do?you took him for the shine and he knew that.
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"room for your thoughts"

Oh wow!

I must say thank you to you all, really, my friend is a mess right now, but to be honest i had nothing to say to her cos am scared of dating!
I WAS HURT ONCE! and that is a feeling i don't ever want to feel ever!
But with what you guys have said, i will take some and leave some, and am sure when i add my own word with yours maybe i can make her feel better.
and about that commitment part, he gave her the keys to his apartment,which is also i kind of commitment i think.
I have chosen to stay of of a relationship cos am a strong beautiful woman, independent and i have friend with benefits, when i want some i get some, i have fun when i want to, i think this is working for me!
but i just can't tell her that she just move on and be like me, i mean really! that's crazy, what is working for me can't always work for the next person.
But thanks a lot! at list i will have something to tell her today just to give her hope and something to look forward to the next day.

Sad to hear and probably you are in shock and feeling hurt.
Fortunately like most users here have said ,there are an untold number of decent genuine men out there ,and the same still goes for women. Any human being with a heart is capable of loving and loving again and again. I think the issue here is you probably took him for granted,opened up too much and let your guards down,which isnt a crime,but one has to be weary these days ,we all need some one to love and to be loved by,but it might be different from someone giving you good lovin ,lol

Gosh!!! I wished I had something to say here!

There's even some indecent men on here... who listen to the Monty Python track: "Oh sit on my face, and tell me that you love me"...