There was a post very similar to this one made recently, but I didn't want to hijack it with my own problems.

God, I feel a little sad airing my dirty linen in public, but here goes;

Three years ago I mutually ended a five year relationship with my ex-girlfriend. For some reason I had let myself be walked all over - she convinced me to be in a 'covert relationship', got off with my friends in front of me, slept with at least 4 other people (and told me about them), called me whilst scared out of her mind in bed with some other guy...You get the idea. Nearly the worst relationship I can imagine. I started acting a little peculiar, dealing with all the sexual jealousy. Lost many friends.

Three years later I've had one short relationship with an old friend that didn't work out. I can't seem to meet anyone who's interested in me - I'm fine at meeting new people and making friends, but nothing more.

To top it all off, as much as I'd never want to talk to, see, or have anything to do with her ever again she still, three years later, appears in my dreams every couple of months or so.

Am I completely screwed? Does anyone have any advice? It feels like I've tried everything but to no avail...

Thanks for reading

Buy Dr Richard Bandler's: "Get the life you want" book, with hypnotic/NLP CD in the back. It works, and has chapters on: Getting on with it, Getting through it, and Getting over it. And, it's quick.

I'm usually incredibly sceptical of self-help guides. But I guess it's not incredibly expensive so it might be worth a shot.

I've tried everything I can to move on from this horrible part of my life, but it seems to loom over me like a massive black cloud. If this works I'll be soooo bloody happy.

Sometimes people never get over their first love. But time really is the best healer. You might never get over her completely but as time goes on you will think less about her.
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I'm a humble person...I'm really much greater than I think I am!

I actually invested in a winch to help recover myself for when I skid off the road and down bank sides. You can bolt them on the front or the rear!!!

I think, perhaps, for a lot of people this site is more useful as a confidence building tool, preparing them for real world dating. People start chatting on here, which builds their self esteem, then go and meet someone else in real life.

That's exactly what i did. I progressed from talking to drunks, cheating wives, drug addicts, psychopaths, the mentally ill, cheaters, users, scammers, the diseased and perverts on-line - to then meeting people like that in real-life. It's been a real hoot... and my confidence has grown to amazing proportions as a consequence! In fact, I'd recommend it to anyone... especially if they have low self-esteem. If your self-esteem is lower than a snake's ass hole (so low, you can parachute out of the snake's ass hole and still free-fall) then you've everything to gain, so just go for it! I did... ... and look at me now... ...?!!!!!!!

Thanks for the advice everyone - it's definitely a confidence building thing for me. if I get a little success on this site it'll help prepare me for the real dating scene eventually. Hopefully.

I definitely feel like it's more possible to drop all this excess baggage now though.

Don't count on it... when you eventually have a HGV-full of it, you can either sell it or move in!

Simply, you haven't got over it yet and moved on. It does take a while/years to get over something like that, sounds traumatic and has changed your life. I'm into dreams and seeing an ex in your dream is significant but not in the way you might think...have a look at http://www.dreammoods.com I know it's a bit odd but I find it interesting at the least.

Hope u manage to work it out!

You could always invest in a cat-o-nine-tails and flog your bare back with it whilst walking through town... could help speed things up, and you may even get offered a role in a religious film...!

I'm so excited, I'm calling on some truckers who are HGV positive...!