I'm new here. Well I'm a lesbian.

How can you recover yourself from being heartbroken?
How can I forget her and be happy again?

My girlfriend broke up with 4 months ago but still I love her. We've been together for 3 years and planned everything about our future but when she broke with me, she takes everything; my world and my dreams.

Hey - that's sad, sorry to hear about your situation.

I reckon that we've all been through break-ups where we've been badly hurt, whether it's been with a man or a woman.

As they always say, time is a great healer and though that seems a trite saying at this time, time is the only way that you do get over it.

It's like experiencing a death, the first step to acceptance is anger, then there's the sadness - both of those are necessary. For the first while you're going to wake up feeling like you've been kicked in the stomach, that's just awful, but you've got to go through it, no-one else can do that hurting for you.

My only advice to you is that when someone does that to you - they're just not worth it, they never were and they didn't love you to begin with. You just have to force yourself to get over them and whatever you do - don't waste your time in hanging onto them.

I made the mistake of hanging onto a guy who had dropped me after 8 years, he'd cheated on me with another woman and I was so in love with him and so determined that he should love me too that I continued to sleep with him for another 2 years. What an idiot I was - how much time I wasted!

Don't waste your time doing that - rather face the fact that she has treated you badly now and try to get your life sorted without her.

Hang in there - one day you'll just feel better.

I honestly have to say i know how you feel, but i have to say life happens, its not something we choose but it comes along all the time sometimes stomping on us and scattering our hopes and dreams.

It is hard, for a month i did not want to leave my home, felt like i was going to loose my sanity. I would have loved to have curled up under my blanket and just let the world go by.

But i had to get up, feed my cats, feed my self cause that won over, but i made sure what i ate was what i really fancied. I can say thank god for my friends, my cats and making sure i ended every week out listening to live music suday evenings and laughing. I stopped drinking which was of great benifit.

My advice to you after all that is get up, dress well and for yourself. Make sure you see the people who are important to you, even just talking to them, ask yourself what you want to do and dont berate yourself if you cant be bothered to get out of bed and want a duvet day we all need them, but do for you, spoil yourself this is most important and if you can forgive, the more you hate the harder it will be.

i wish you the best, i was where you were, its not easy forgive yourself as well! Life happens!