Okay so I've recently become single.
Well basically I moved in with my boyfriend who lived 4 hours away, giving up my job, my family, my home and my friends to be with him. I moved in and had to find a new job straight away to support both of us, as he was on the doll the whole time I knew him. I would do all the cleaning as he wouldn't do anything and just spend all day at the gym.
I didn't feel appreciated for anything I did, but I didn't mind, I loved him.

Now, the reason I left was because of this.
I found out he had been cheating on me. Not with just one random girl but 4 of my FRIENDS, one being one of my best friends. I couldn't believe it when the truth came out, not only had I lost my best friend, I lost my friends too. I had to move back home but my family are cold to me for moving in the first place.

So just shows, it doesnt matter how kind, how much you sacrifice or love one person. It doesn't stop them from ripping your heart into pieces!

END OF RANT

Hope this doesn't happen to anyone else

Having read that, I cant really see what it was you actually loved about him, but I dont know anymore about him than what you have said. Just the mere facts that he was on the dole forever, going to the gym and not doing any housework would have put a lot of people off in the first place. Did you see these personality traits in him before you moved in?

I hope you can rebuild your relationship with your family and find someone with a bit more moral fibre, shall we say!

You've been treated really badly here by everybody that you should have been able to trust, not least your family and best friend who you should be able to rely on for support in these times.
Try not to let this experience affect you too much, chalk it up to experience and do your best to move on from here.
I hope that you find somebody more deserving of you.
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Vidi Vici Veni

I got in touch with my feminine side. She emailed me back saying if I ever contacted her again she'd call the police.

People suck... What can ya do?

I can't believe how badly you've been treated in all this. I didn't see a defeatist attitude in your post which is to be commended and I hope you find someone more deserving next time. Best of luck in your search.

Thankyou for the kind words everyone

I don't know why I loved him in the first place, you'd need to know him, must have been something for me to go and live with him! haha.

Just part of life's story eh!

Hi Holly, how long did you know this guy before you decided to leave everything you knew and go to live with him? Was going to live with him an excuse to leave behand a crappy life?
Personally i think your family and friends treated you VERY badly. Your friends cheated on you so were they really friends, i guess not! and as for your family being off with you i think they should be really happy that you are back in their lives or are you not close?

I knew him for about 3 years, was going out for about a year before I moved in with him.
I was close with my family but when I moved the just hated the fact I did something they didn't agree with. I no longer have a room to stay either.

BUT I'm trying to keep my chin up and think positive.

Hmmmm! thats a long time to know someone in this day and age,Sorry it didnt work for you but there is someone special just waiting for you.If you dont take the chance then youll never know and you took the chance, but unfortunately it wasnt to be...The positive here is you realised this guy wasnt right for you before you had children to him.I suppose your room in your parents has been turned into a sewing room or something mad like that lol.

Haha, I'm glad I took the chance, I learnt alot. Especially about responsabilities!

My room was changed so my brother has a second "play" room.. hmm. haha.

Moving on from crap like that would actually make you a much stronger person. Sometimes you only see the side of someone you like and ignore all the bad things or they only appear the way you like until it's too late. Good thing you've escaped and seem to be positive.

The good thing about all of this is that you've learned a lesson on what traits to avoid in the other person you'll date. Take that lesson with you and leave the hurt in the past with this douche...I hope he gets his heart broken and feels the betrayal you felt.
You will meet someone deserving of you just try not to drag this hurt around with you..I made that mistake and it sucks...let go and let love sweety..

You had a lucky escape. Some years ago, I was engaged to be married after a 2-year long-distance relationship from the Net. I sat with my fiancee with the Priest in the church, discussing matters and making plans - and she said to the Priest (whilst she lovingly held my hand):

"I could never cheat on ___________. I swear on my children's lives, I love him so much, and I've had it done to me in the past, so I know how much it hurts."

Bear in mind this was said to a Priest - and an oath of death was sworn onto her children, by her.

Problem: after a supicion, and my investigating matters, she was found to have been cheating on me throughout the whole relationship - and... had picked a man with the same first name as mine, so she wouldn't get the names mixed up - even buying him the same aftershave - so I'd suspect nothing. It wasn't very nice to find their hotel receipt - and photos in her email account... but, this is the sort of person who also said (just prior to being found out on the cheating aspect) she would close her supposedly defunct email accounts - relating to online dating - and, she did so... but did not know she was now being monitored - and, before closing one account, the confirmation was sent to it of her opening yet another new, secret account. And, oddly, after that - just before the finding-out-of-the-cheating aspect (yes... there was a final build-up to it), she told me that if I didn't believe her honesty, I could check her computer. So, I took her up on the offer - and after driving 200+ miles to check it, I found it had a brand new, blank hard disk in. I left after 20 minutes, and found out the rest when I got home - then, ended up in hospital with suspect chest pains.

Nice, loving, peace-of-mind situation isn't it.

To make matters worse, I've heard on the grapevine this woman is still on-line.

So... like I've said in the past, and will now say again: for the 1 internet dating success that actually LASTS, there's 100,000+ for whom it doesn't... so... makes you ponder, doesn't it.