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20.09.2006, 13:03 quote

Anonymous

Sorry for the subject heading here,but im getting very dissapointed on this site.
I have sent countless mails to various members of the opposite love.
All to no avail...I wouldn't mind so much that if you send a message to someone and if they dont fancy you then fair enough,but personally if the shoe was on the other foot,then i would at least take the time and trouble to give that person a polite reply.
All my messages sent are polite and freindly,so i know it isnt my approach.
Now do we live in such a society now where people just dont simply care and cant be bother to reply,or is it me?
Im begining to wonder.
I for one am not going to put the site down ,,but from a personal point of view im begining to think that i am wasting my time.
Sad

 

20.09.2006, 13:18 quote

Anonymous

It's a message, don't get so hung up about it, and besides the people you are messaging could have loads to look at. They do not owe you anything, do not know you and therefore if there is no reason to reply then why bother? Politeness? Seems all a bit pointless to me, why be polite when you are not going to be giving the person the answer they want?

If people don't reply then sod it, their loss, not yours.

 

20.09.2006, 13:40 quote

Anonymous

There are more men than women, that's a definate.

Some women do get lots of messages every day. The majority of those messages probably ask for love. Or have crude comments in them.
I find that the very few messages I do get have both of the above. Rolling Eyes

 

20.09.2006, 13:45 quote

Anonymous

Jonboy36 wrote:
Sorry for the subject heading here,but im getting very dissapointed on this site.
I have sent countless mails to various members of the opposite love.
All to no avail...I wouldn't mind so much that if you send a message to someone and if they dont fancy you then fair enough,but personally if the shoe was on the other foot,then i would at least take the time and trouble to give that person a polite reply.
All my messages sent are polite and freindly,so i know it isnt my approach.
Now do we live in such a society now where people just dont simply care and cant be bother to reply,or is it me?
Im begining to wonder.
I for one am not going to put the site down ,,but from a personal point of view im begining to think that i am wasting my time.
Sad


We are being taken for granted on this site there is no doubt about that, but I suppose it would be the same if women out numbered the men by 3-4 to 1. But too be honest I don't make much of a effort.
I reckon you could stand more chance if you posted regularly on this message board, where women can get to know you a bit more. At least you get some interaction on here and find out what they want.

 

20.09.2006, 14:46 quote

Anonymous

ScotInCornwall wrote:
Sorry, Jeggea, I have to disagree.

There are very few people on this board compared with the main site.

The guy's profile says he's looking for love.

That's why he's getting no replies.


I suppose a man coming on this site wanting love is a bit odd Wink

I know what you mean and you are probably right, But I read his profile and it didn't look to bad to me. But I'm no expert.

My point is, if he is new to these type sites as I am, at least he get some interaction here, and can maybe learn how these sites work and have a clue of what they want. Maybe he learned something from this thread. I've learned a lot from this board, for when I am ready to unleash my self on this site proper Laughing

That is a good point that I noticed, about last log in dates.

 

20.09.2006, 16:22 quote

Anonymous

Jonboy36 wrote:
Sorry for the subject heading here,but im getting very dissapointed on this site.
I have sent countless mails to various members of the opposite love.
All to no avail...I wouldn't mind so much that if you send a message to someone and if they dont fancy you then fair enough,but personally if the shoe was on the other foot,then i would at least take the time and trouble to give that person a polite reply.
All my messages sent are polite and freindly,so i know it isnt my approach.
Now do we live in such a society now where people just dont simply care and cant be bother to reply,or is it me?
Im begining to wonder.
I for one am not going to put the site down ,,but from a personal point of view im begining to think that i am wasting my time.
Sad


hi there..blimey i am starting to feel like i have been on this site too long..lol how many times have i read the same type of thing is unbelievable..lol
firstly, you wont get replies from every woman you send a msg too..they do get so so many, and most of them crap too..and if shoe was on the other foot, no you wouldnt be able to reply to the sheer amount they get..
secondly, why it is seen that a msg saying no thanks would be welcome anyway..surely action speaks for itself here..if they dont reply, there not interested..
thirdly, you have only been here less than 4 weeks..so give it time..just because you havent had success yet doesnt mean you wont..

basically, if you are happy with how you are sending msgs ie.being polite etc. then just give it time..dont fall into the trap of thinking, no-ones replying therefore its a waste of time..dont expect to find the woman of your dreams so fast, but also dont get dissapointed because of no replys..not every woman would like to send out negative replys to all there msgs all the time..
remember, it only takes one msg to turn around how you feel about this site, so give it time..
..good luck..

 

20.09.2006, 16:32 quote

Anonymous

More good advice Kev,

Johnboy, do not give up hope yet mate. Just when you think there is nothing happening along comes someone that you just connect with!

Put on your pofile that you can be found in here, have some fun in the boards and if a lady likes the look of you then she will come here, read your posts and make her mind up that way!

Good luck and have patience.

 

20.09.2006, 17:02 quote

Anonymous

I've had 3 messages by 3 different guys today along the lines of "hi, wanna chat?" Apart from being as brief as them by saying "no", what do they expect from me?! I've nothing to go on! so it's hardly surprising a lot of women don't reply.

 

20.09.2006, 20:18 quote

Anonymous

redoctober wrote:
I've had 3 messages by 3 different guys today along the lines of "hi, wanna chat?" Apart from being as brief as them by saying "no", what do they expect from me?! I've nothing to go on! so it's hardly surprising a lot of women don't reply.


Maybe a reply along the lines of..'well i would, but by the looks of it you dont even seem to be able to start a conversation...' lmao

 

20.09.2006, 20:35 quote

Anonymous

This guy needs to go here Wink

 

20.09.2006, 20:57 quote

Anonymous

elkabong wrote:
im new here tonight but you cant expect every lady you send a message to send you a reply....bide your time, be polite & even crack a joke to get their attention and set you apart from the rest of the guys that have messaged her and you with some patience you might make a break through

the key is to break the mould - im sure the ladies posting here would agree that getting one message that doesnt say "get them out" or "wanna chat" and instead tries to have a normal chat with them would go a long way


Exactly.

 

20.09.2006, 21:10 quote

Anonymous

elkabong wrote:
im new here tonight but you cant expect every lady you send a message to send you a reply....bide your time, be polite & even crack a joke to get their attention and set you apart from the rest of the guys that have messaged her and you with some patience you might make a break through

the key is to break the mould - im sure the ladies posting here would agree that getting one message that doesnt say "get them out" or "wanna chat" and instead tries to have a normal chat with them would go a long way


Well i think you certainly have the right attitude and approach..nice to see..
but it is amazing how many blokes havent..

 

20.09.2006, 21:13 quote

Anonymous

Well if anything at least my posting got a good response.
To Scott ...i didnt relise my profile says im looking for love as you put it,so before you go pointing the finger i think it would be a good idea to read all what ive wrote in my profile.
As for everyone else what you have said has been taken on board,and to be honest i just think if you send a one liner in a meesage you got as much hope of find gold in your own back yard.
As for my intail point i think if someone has taken the time to message someone in a polite manner ,then it doesnt take 1 minute to send a reply saying thanx ,but no thanx ,,,thats jsut my personal opinion,i was brought up with manners and respect and i dont think theres any harm in expecting the same in return.
As for the site i think its cool ,one its free and i think more sites out there need to be more like this one.
I think theres too many sites on the net that make a exploitation out of lonely people,and lets face it ,,theres plenty of us around although some do not want to admit it ..
I will however persevre as i have had many a knock back ,but i keep on plugging away.
And i appriaciate the time and trouble that the moderators put in to this site/forum.
For what is worth i think you do a good job.


# Looking for... some fun
# romance
# no strings fun
# casual encounters
# a short-term relationship
# a long-term relationship
# ...flirty fun?!
P.s Scott does this say im looking for love?

End of the day im covering all options but i fail to see where it says im looking for love..
All down to enterpritation isnt it.

 

20.09.2006, 21:43 quote

Anonymous

personally, by ticking all the boxes available i dont think it is seen as keeping your options open...In my opinon it just looks like someone is not sure what they want, or that they are free and easy in what they are looking for (quite desperate)..not saying that was/is the intention, but can be read two ways i think..

and i agree..i read no strings fun as 'looking for love for one night' and
'casual encounters' as pretty much..dont want to get to know you too well but love would be good..

 

20.09.2006, 23:52 quote

Anonymous

53846 wrote:
personally, by ticking all the boxes available i dont think it is seen as keeping your options open...In my opinon it just looks like someone is not sure what they want, or that they are free and easy in what they are looking for (quite desperate)..not saying that was/is the intention, but can be read two ways i think..

and i agree..i read no strings fun as 'looking for love for one night' and
'casual encounters' as pretty much..dont want to get to know you too well but love would be good..

Yeah!!! ok.. when put like that i fully understand the jist of it...So Scotty i would like to thank you for drawing that to my attention initally.U2 there 53846...your name is strange to say the least ,,,and i mean that in a humourous way.
Ok so ill change what im looking for then what ....?
Will i get anymore response?
Hey at least its gonna be a step in the right direction huh,,,,and i do appologise if i have offended anyone out there,,,that was not my intention.
Bottom line i would like to make new freinds and hopefully my perfect match is out there,Maybe somewhere..........Hello ...are you out there ,,,,,,for gawd sake still no reply....Ha!

 
 
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