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02.05.2007, 21:53 quote

Anonymous

Yes viewers, this is going to be quite a depressing post, but we're not at the self-harming stage or re-decorating in black emulsion, its just a simple question. When do you stop trying to find someone?

Once you've been burned on numerous consecutive occasions, even when you've tried your damnedest to make things work, is there a stage where you just have to admit defeat, and consign yourself to ready meals for one and getting excited when you get junk mail addressed to you personally?

Judging by the amount of people on this site who are still here after several months or more, there are obviously others who still haven't hit the jackpot. So, are we all in denial? Or do you reach a stage where you're resigned to your fate? I know there have been a few success stories on here, but they seem to be in the minority.

After all, you can only take so many knockbacks before you start getting overly cynical (and perhaps even bitter) about the whole affair, which doesn't do you any favours in endearing yourself to the opposite love.

Is there a queue for the monastery I'm missing out on, or is it worth soldiering on?

 

02.05.2007, 21:54 quote

Anonymous

you dont.... simple as

 

02.05.2007, 22:19 quote

Anonymous

"I know about art and love, if only because I long for it with every fiber of my being"

I know I'll never give up. It does hurt so much to go through all of the heartache, but in the end it will be worth it, when you do find that person. Just keep trying, because that is all you can do. If I did not have the hope and desire that I have to find love, I would feel quite empty.

 

02.05.2007, 22:51 quote

Anonymous

You just get up again, dust yourself off and try again.

 

03.05.2007, 06:41 quote

Anonymous

sit back, put yourself on cruise control, dont worry about it

 

03.05.2007, 07:49 quote

Anonymous

chikhai wrote:
Yes viewers, this is going to be quite a depressing post, but we're not at the self-harming stage or re-decorating in black emulsion, its just a simple question. When do you stop trying to find someone?

Once you've been burned on numerous consecutive occasions, even when you've tried your damnedest to make things work, is there a stage where you just have to admit defeat, and consign yourself to ready meals for one and getting excited when you get junk mail addressed to you personally?

Judging by the amount of people on this site who are still here after several months or more, there are obviously others who still haven't hit the jackpot. So, are we all in denial? Or do you reach a stage where you're resigned to your fate? I know there have been a few success stories on here, but they seem to be in the minority.

After all, you can only take so many knockbacks before you start getting overly cynical (and perhaps even bitter) about the whole affair, which doesn't do you any favours in endearing yourself to the opposite love.

Is there a queue for the monastery I'm missing out on, or is it worth soldiering on?


Too many people are looking for love and are disappointed when then don't find it. If you look for it you will fail. If you live and enjoy your life then everything else will eventually fall into place. So what I'm saying is ... don't look, just be patient.

 

03.05.2007, 09:02 quote

Anonymous

yeah im a strong believer in if you get yourself sorted and your happy with your life, then love will come..

but you have to be happy in yourself

 

03.05.2007, 10:03 quote

Anonymous

twistedvoilet wrote:
yeah im a strong believer in if you get yourself sorted and your happy with your life, then love will come..

but you have to be happy in yourself


From your posts of the last few days Vi, it looks like love is due your way then Wink

 

03.05.2007, 18:13 quote

loubylou

i am going to give up for at least the next year and concentrate on more important things

 

03.05.2007, 18:56 quote

Anonymous

oh well he hasnt hung around

 

03.05.2007, 19:03 quote

Anonymous

twistedvoilet wrote:
yeah im a strong believer in if you get yourself sorted and your happy with your life, then love will come..

but you have to be happy in yourself


I agree, some people worry too much about finding someone and rush into relationships, sometimes without thinking. Better off taking everyday and everyone as they come. Enjoy life and be happy.

 

03.05.2007, 19:07 quote

Anonymous

spdarkhorse wrote:
Well, you can give up actively looking if you want, but your body and subconcious wont.

I think if I am single then 80 would be a good age to decide that the single life is for me. But till then dont give up - look on these forums, quite a few people arnt singles any more and are here because - well, just because they like them


I'm 50 and have been single by choice..but now I'm thinking of looking for the lucky women that will share my life Smile ..I'm probably going in reverse of what you said Wink

 

03.05.2007, 19:50 quote

Anonymous

redoctober wrote:
twistedvoilet wrote:
yeah im a strong believer in if you get yourself sorted and your happy with your life, then love will come..

but you have to be happy in yourself


From your posts of the last few days Vi, it looks like love is due your way then Wink
aww thanks hun...

 

03.05.2007, 19:51 quote

Anonymous

scottie69 wrote:
oh well he hasnt hung around
maybe hes taking a break from it all

 

04.05.2007, 17:39 quote

Anonymous

yes vi, maybe he has. just didnt think the title of this topic meant he didnt have much luck and fucked off

 
 
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