I think I'd make more effort to impress someone than with, "Hi, how are you?"
How about "Hi, I see in your profile that you like [insert band] too. I really like [that song] on that album, it reminded me of [other band]. Do you like them also?"

It shows that you have a common interest and provides more room for more conversation than, "How are you?" or, worse still, "How r u lol".

I don't understand the logic that because someone can write something witty he is more right for you, or a better man then a man that cant ?? But its the way of Internet dating sites, and something men have to put up with until more single women come online. Probably why its better to hang around on the forums where women can get to know men, rather then get taken in by jokers. Not that all jokers are bad

I'm just going to deliver an emotional response to this topic, because it seems to come on frequently, lately.

*repeatedly screams out loudly "don't be so bloody lazy when talking to someone" for 5 minutes*

kthxbi

Here's a tip for anyone who so badly wants to talk to a woman, but hasn't the intelligence or wit to write more than "hi, how are you ?". Be honest.

"Hello, I'm desperate for a date, will you talk to me please"

Hopefully, your target will confuse this desperate honesty with humour, laugh, and start talking to you.

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i think the problem is this,
you recieve a message saying hi, so you reply back, hi how are you, then im fine, hows you, then yeah im fine...
then what...

where as, oh i like your profile, i like xxx too, just something to start the convo off.

think of it this way if you saw someone you liked in the real world, you would say hi.. and then make a conversation.

its called open questions, and its the best way for conversation to start

No sooner had I finished reading this thread when I got the following message:

u ryt?? av u got msn??

I have this incredibly strong urge to send it back to her, correcting the spelling and grammer Mind you, I get the same urge when I see bad spelling in graffiti....