Ive read some profiles where women seem to have a problem with the "How, how are you doing? x" type icebreaker. Why is that?

See, to me, its a quick short way of saying "I like the look of you, check my profile out and get back to me if you are interested"

I don't see the point in writing war and peace on 1st contact, only for the woman to be totally uninterested. What a waste of time that is.

Surely it makes sense to have a short and sweet approach 1st... ? Can anyone tell me why they think some random stranger owes it to them to write something compellingly witty or lengthy straight off the bat?

Sorry - just a little baffled and need a reasoned response

If you think that women on dating boards get that type of messages 10 a penny its a waste of time.... i personally think that if you are going to message them put something original as they are more likely to take notice

Sure, but they get to see a pic in the message and if there's a hint of attraction then they'll go and look at the profile, read it and make a decision to reply no?

I wouldn't write off a person just on the basis of a "Hi sweetie" message, I don't get why they would either.

Although really, if a person is that anal about it, then perhaps its a good warning sign anyway

Sort of agree with "if he's yer physical type you'll answer anyway". Course it's better he says somethin witty, but you will surely not refuse yer type if he just says "hellew".
However, guys, I agree with rightin' somethin' witty. That way you shoot both rabbits. If you're her type she'll answer anyway, if not she'll take you more into consideration because of the witty stuff. (Not that I am into looks, beauty is in the eye of the beholder ).

I think I'd make more effort to impress someone than with, "Hi, how are you?"
How about "Hi, I see in your profile that you like [insert band] too. I really like [that song] on that album, it reminded me of [other band]. Do you like them also?"

It shows that you have a common interest and provides more room for more conversation than, "How are you?" or, worse still, "How r u lol".

I don't understand the logic that because someone can write something witty he is more right for you, or a better man then a man that cant ?? But its the way of Internet dating sites, and something men have to put up with until more single women come online. Probably why its better to hang around on the forums where women can get to know men, rather then get taken in by jokers. Not that all jokers are bad

I'm just going to deliver an emotional response to this topic, because it seems to come on frequently, lately.

*repeatedly screams out loudly "don't be so bloody lazy when talking to someone" for 5 minutes*

kthxbi

Personally, I look at the profile of the bloke who sent me the message before reading the message.

If we have similar interests, then I 'll more than likely respond.
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