lol dave i had a woman message me using kiddy text speak as i like to call it lazy.... in other words if ya cant be arsed to ask properly dont bother asking at all i cant be arsed with that!!!

i think the problem is this,
you recieve a message saying hi, so you reply back, hi how are you, then im fine, hows you, then yeah im fine...
then what...

where as, oh i like your profile, i like xxx too, just something to start the convo off.

think of it this way if you saw someone you liked in the real world, you would say hi.. and then make a conversation.

its called open questions, and its the best way for conversation to start

Some interesting responses, some I agree with some I don't.

Thanks for your feedback guys and gals

No sooner had I finished reading this thread when I got the following message:

u ryt?? av u got msn??

I have this incredibly strong urge to send it back to her, correcting the spelling and grammer Mind you, I get the same urge when I see bad spelling in graffiti....

I once got a message simply saying "Hi" and that was it. I had no idea what to write or why he messaged me, so I just sent "Hi back" and that ended the conversation that never existed in the first place...

I think when one says they want a more witty message, they want one that stands out and isn't like every other message they get. Taking a bit more time on the first message just shows that you are more interested and are not just copying and pasting a simple message to everyone and anyone. I answer all of the "Hello, how are you" messages but am much more receptive to a message that comments or compliments my profile- makes me feel like there is true interest and compatibility.

Come on, ...why bother writing a long original message just to get shown the finger? lol

Besides if i could be arsed to put in that much effort i wouldnt be looking for a date on the internet

Well actually im not anymore but if i was i would at least wait until the person i sent the message to showed a bit of interest before writing anything of great length

lol, its like 600 characters max, thats not effort, thats a tiny amount Its when you run out of space on a message you should start to worry

And what takes more effort, writing out a hundred "hi how are you?"'s or one longer message saying "Hey, I really liked your profile etc etc etc"? Pretty certain the longer message is far more likely to get a response

Lucky I wrote a long one then, eh