Mandy you had 4 or 5 guys on the go a year ago when you were on the site to... do you think maybe its time you gave yourself a wee break and wait until you actually know what you want and desire from a man - might save all this heartache you keep having..


instead of treating them mean and keeping them keen


you could


treat them right and maybe they'll stay more than a night

Yes yes, very good!!!!!!

Just trying to help

In case anyone is wondering what the relationship between the original post and mine above is - as a general rule of thumb (I can’t speak for SmittenKitten, or anyone else, of course), someone who is playing the field with multiple boyfriends/girlfriends etc is usually indecisive; they can’t make up their minds which one best suits their overall needs – or they’re playing the field until someone ‘better’ comes along, instead of evaluating the long term potential of someone they’re already with. Eventually, people get fed up with being treated badly, and move on. Here today, gone tomorrow......

Likewise, with dithering in contacting someone, or making a positive move at actually meeting someone they have an interest in, if someone waits too long, it is usually because they’re hoping someone ‘better’ comes along (i.e. nearer geographically, more wealthy, younger, older, taller, shorter, whatever). By the time you’ve dithered around and realised that no-one else *is* going to come along, weeks/months could have gone by, and you could have missed that chance with someone who could have been ideal for you. In the age of modern technology where contact is instantaneous, at the click of a Send button, someone who is attractively appealing and single today could be happily contemplating a new relationship tomorrow.

I would say the women who "crawl back" to the guys who treat them badly are the women who have little or no self-esteem, which is why the two of them gravitated to each other in the first place.
Not all women 'crawl back' to guys who treat them badly. Me for one. I have some self-esteem and know I am worth better than that.
It boils down to what has been said a zillion times before on other threads, it depends on what you equate as being treated well or not.
I know some women who say a guy treats her badly just because he doesnt drop everything and come running every time she crooks her little finger...on the other hand, a guy who *does* do that is called a wimp...so guys cant really win one way or tuther can they?

Well, I guess that's "too nice" to which you refer. As in "namby pamby". Let's face it, if a woman acts not-so-saccharin-sweet she uses pmt as an excuse to be bitchy/forgetful/thoughtless/selfish etc. A bloke cant really blame his hormones so well.
Men have the same emotional states as women, more or less, so I would expect a bloke to occasionally be grouchy/forgetful/arsey/all the above and more, I am so why shouldn't he be any different?
"Too nice" in my book means nambypamby, no personality of his own, easily led, no ideas/opinions of his own and I would require a sick bucket to be provided along with him to put up with that for too long!