I've never had someone give me the silent treatment until very recently- And its horrible, you try to call and get an answer, you send messages that get no reply, start worrying and end up tearing your hair out and looking like a stalker. I think its the very worst thing you can do to someone, when to avoid all the pain and misery is to just tell the person what is going on and not subject them to a wall of silence? In my case my silent treatment was off my ex-girlfriend who didnt have the guts to tell me she didn't want to be friends with me anymore. Maybe I should have took the hint but maybe she should have just told me-which she still has to do, but I've now taken the hint. Surely everyone has experienced it, so why do people inflict it? All viewpoints welcome

ive done it before when i was young and stupid, i thought it was easlier to ignore someone then to face them and tell them its over then, have all the questions...

its not a nice thing to do to someone... but your better of out of it now

Erm I often use the silent treatment when I'm sick of arguing I go daaaays not saying anything, I know I shouldn't though. But sometimes you have to be silent 'cause it makes people feel kinda guilty and actually start to think about what they're doing.. Although it IS sorta mean

Theres nothing worse than the silent treatment. Ive done it and been on the receiving end of it. It is pretty damn annoying but then sometimes its the only way to get something or someone out of your system. It is better to face something but sometimes its just not possible

Just forget about her!

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I'm going through the same thing at the moment! Its horrible! Cant even work out why she is doing it!

Although we never, ever learn when it comes to this, just try and forget 'em.

If they haven't got the bottle to face you then really, are they worth your time anyway?

I agree with noheartsing. If she doesn't want to be friends she should tell you.

Personally, I do give people the silent treatment, but I've either told them quite clearly on previous occasions to leave me alone.

Or there is one mate I do it to sometimes, but it's normally a "I'm very angry and I might say something I regret" kinda thing.

fight fire with fire
don't get angry get even
don't waste time, when there are so many
never run after a bus, train and a girl, if one goes an other comes.
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I've experienced the silent treatment while in relationships.
It reeks of weakness, petulence and naivety.
If it is supposed to have the effect of inducing contrition, it seems to incur the opposite effect in me... loss of respect.

Ta much for all your viewpoints-all appreciated.
never run after a bus, train and a girl, if one goes an other comes.-very true!
Have learnt my lesson and in all honesty if she contacts me (v unlikely anyway ) I will more than happily tell her to fcuk off!!!

I think the silent treatment is the way some people deal with breaking up. FOr example, my only long-term relationship lasted 9-10 years, and when we did split, which was a mutual decision, we both promised nothing & no-one would stop us from being mates. Anyway, as soon as she found a new bloke, she never spoke to me again. I even bumped into her up town once, and upon saying 'Hi' she simply turned her back and walked away, pretending she hadn't even seen me. I thought that was extremely strange, at first, but then it hit me, perhaps it was her method of cutting the ties, her way of dealing with it. Which, in all fairness was upto her, if it worked for her, so be it, you know?

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Russ
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I'm crap at the silent treatment .. I talk to much and cant keep quiet