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11.10.2008, 16:02 quote

jeggae

colkitto wrote:
jeggae wrote:
colkitto wrote:
jeggae wrote:
mimib wrote:
My guess would rather be that if a couple is lacking of communication or simply lived apart they are trying to spice up their life - seeing their love-life as an indicator for the entire relationship. In the end everybody has a free will and is responsible for his own decision.


I agree, I never judge anyone and let everyone get on with it. That includes age etc.

But these arrangements wouldnt work if there wasnt communication. If they ain't strong relationships/marriages they wouldn't work.


how magnanimous of you...communication is just a trite word, my mother used to "communicate" with me..as she quite rightly beat the crud outta me for my latest misdemeanor, what you seem to think is that's it's all done with noble intention, some read to many romantic porn stories, the reality is usually, some poor lass frightened of losing her man unless she joins in the "esprit de corps" often times she will have been told how boring the love life is (his/99% mans fault) he thinks, my marriage is dull lets get someone to hump my beloved, that will make us even happier...chuckle...


You're coming across [to me] as someone who's led a sheltered life. Women can get just as bored with their love lives as men. Some women are actually the dominant partner in the relationship.

Obviously we all have different experiences. In my experience SOME women can be just as controlling as men, and some women actually do like love. I can show you some sites where women actively look for men [and women] for love, sometimes with the agreement of their partner, sometimes behind the partners back.

Last night on another dating site similar to this, a woman who I've met at a meet, told me she'd like me to go up to see her, and I know she has a partner. She made it plain she only wants one thing. I said I would, but doubt I'll email her. Only because she lives too far away.

As I've always been single, it as been a constant problem for me. So I know some women can be not very innocent.


colkitto wrote:
yeah right.....or does each to their own, now extend to pedophiles next....perverts are perverts....as we Scots say.."aye it's a sair ficht"...lol


Very juvenile retort, of course I meant anything legal and harmless.


..sheltered life eh...worked in over 80 countries ..and all the sins the Oilfiled throws at a man....never mind shall leave it at that, you clearly don't enjoy correction factors in arguments...but delighted I got under yer skin...you Internet warrior you...lol


Seems there is no point in arguing with you as you are obviously right. Even though this was a thread asking for opinions.

I dont mind being corrected if someone gives me facts, figures and proof. But this thread was only about opions. Which is all you gave.

Very odd.

 
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12.10.2008, 16:09 quote

bexbex

And back on the thread...............

No i couldn't do an open relationship, probably because i'm too insecure, i like my man to be my man and not want to be with anyone else. If he loved me why would he want to be with anyone else anyway??

 
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12.10.2008, 16:38 quote

bexbex

Cazzabee wrote:
I'm enough for one man believe me Laughing


You and me both honey Wink

 
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12.10.2008, 16:43 quote

jeggae

mimib wrote:
jeggae wrote:

But these arrangements wouldn't work if there wasnt communication. If they ain't strong relationships/marriages they wouldn't work.


colkitto wrote:
...communication is just a trite word, my mother used to "communicate" with me..as she quite rightly beat the crud outta me for my latest misdemeanor,


Don't want to stir anything up between you both, but actually communication is not only about plain words. I have been beaten by my mum, she once smashed my stereo with a hammer because I broke the hover accidently. But as a grown up I understand that it was her way of saying "I am absolutely overstrained" as she was a single mother and had to bring us kids up on her own. Speaking of a lack of communication can also mean, that one is only agreeing to a certain arrangement in order to make things working, not because he/she really wants that on his own. As communication is not as clear and apparent sometimes.


Communication was a bit of a bum steer, that probably has little to do with this subject, to be honest

I'm hoping top get an insight into what my mum was 'communicating' to me soon...and why she felt the need to 'communicate' more to me then my siblings Surprised Smile

 
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12.10.2008, 17:10 quote

jeggae

bexbex wrote:
And back on the thread...............

No i couldn't do an open relationship, probably because i'm too insecure, i like my man to be my man and not want to be with anyone else. If he loved me why would he want to be with anyone else anyway??


Some men can separate love form love. They can have love with other people but still love you. Obviously if you didn't like this, and they had love without you knowing. That is deceit and is obviously wrong, and not fair on you.

I know of women who draw a blind eye to their men having love with other women. But they have no intentions of having love with other men.

Alternatively there are women that can also separate love from love, and would like love with other people. If these two like minded people meet. They could have an open relationship, and probably an happy one.


Incidentally, I can tell you some stories about my mates wives and girlfriends where love is concerned. I've only succumbed once Surprised

 
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