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05.06.2006, 20:43 quote

Anonymous

This is a difficult one...

I'm not going to lie.

I don't think it's possible.

 

05.06.2006, 22:06 quote

Anonymous

willgo wrote:
Is it possible to love somebody you do not fancy?


Yes, but the situation is obviously important. Horrific scarring? Specific kind of disease alters your loved one?

I've got a few ex's I "thought" I loved who I definitely don't fancy now Very Happy

 

05.06.2006, 23:13 quote

Anonymous

scotsteen wrote:
well i think you have to fancy the person before you fall in love with them. Cause fancying them makes u take attention of them and keep thinking of them.

However, im sure if u love someone then theyre physically scared etc you can still love them, because by then itl have become about more than looks.


Which brings up the question, can you love someone you've never seen?

 

06.06.2006, 14:36 quote

Anonymous

The simple answer to this is Yes, people can be attracted in different ways, personalities are a big turn on for alot of women/men.

Also some people believe its actually in your genes as to the person you are attracted towards (strange i know).

Its very hard to fall in love with someone you ado not fancy but it can happen, especially if your friends with that particular someone. There has to be some other form of attraction though, funny guys always get lots of women, even the ugly ones.

 

14.06.2006, 17:08 quote

Anonymous

I dont think it is, You can love someone personality, or looks bit if your having doubts already it normaly just dwindles out in my experience

 

15.06.2006, 15:35 quote

Anonymous

its totally possible as there are diffarent types of love, and some people can have long term relationships with someone they dont fancy, but there is something else there instead.

 

15.06.2006, 18:45 quote

Anonymous

Sexual love vrs none sexual love

I love my mother, father, brothers and sister but will never fancy them

I have to say yes, there are people that I feel love for but would never consider sexually (beyond my family)

All down to to the relationships you have

Wx

 

19.06.2006, 04:09 quote

Anonymous

Well the answer is deffinately yes I am a christian and this is something that it states clearly in the Bible. So that we have to love everyone even if we don't like them even if they have given us a hard time or even want to kill us!!that is unconditional love. It is not easy but it is amazing the result when you love someone. That love is showen in your action as well as your words. So caring for the person in need or doing something a friend that they were not exspecting by you going that extra mile that is love. Taking time to listern when you know a person has has a hard time even when you don't know them. Because the word love has more than 1 meaning if we were greek it would be obivous what love we are talking about. So it get confussing because people mistake 1 love for another. Unconditional love, charity, Sexual love, parental love, love for something money or flowers thats (not human). So it very possible to love someone with out fancying them and you do it more than you actually know that you are being loving towards someone.

 

27.07.2006, 17:20 quote

Anonymous

willgo wrote:
Is it possible to love somebody you do not fancy?

i dont think it is possible to love someone u dont fancy.

 

27.07.2006, 18:03 quote

Anonymous

SexyDan wrote:
The simple answer to this is Yes, people can be attracted in different ways, personalities are a big turn on for alot of women/men.

Also some people believe its actually in your genes as to the person you are attracted towards (strange i know).

Its very hard to fall in love with someone you ado not fancy but it can happen, especially if your friends with that particular someone. There has to be some other form of attraction though, funny guys always get lots of women, even the ugly ones.



great to see you online dan ur v missed here.....

and to answer the question... yes you can love someone you dont fancy but it will always be more of a platonic love. unless you start fancying them in time.... i have had mates in the past who i have never seen in the "fancying" way but all of a sudden i started to think of them in more of a bedroom way.

 

27.07.2006, 19:00 quote

Anonymous

almostpurrrfect wrote:
great to see you online dan ur v missed here.....


Dan's no longer a member, that post was made before he left.

 

27.07.2006, 19:06 quote

Anonymous

I have a good mate who I totally love to bits but i don't fancy him......any more!

 

27.07.2006, 20:25 quote

Anonymous

Greeting people,

I would have say yes, but that's only in the contexts that the individual was with a gathering in a social event though you don't find them attractive at first, as time passes and the layers are peal away you find that person you do truly like, then a little spark will ignite a small flame O' yes,

On the other hand if you meet the individual in passing they will be dismissed immediately and you will never know now will you.

 

28.07.2006, 11:03 quote

Anonymous

swissrebel wrote:
almostpurrrfect wrote:
great to see you online dan ur v missed here.....


Dan's no longer a member, that post was made before he left.


ahh dammit Embarassed

 

31.07.2006, 16:04 quote

Anonymous

It is completely possible to love someone who doesn't make your heart flutter. Usually I find that in that case, it's about much more than just the initial physical jolt of lust.

 
 
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