Ok,,how would u feel if u started seeing someone on this forum and u thot u had something going and then find out they only wanted to be friends...same thing happened to me on the poker site..would u still be friends or cut it as a loss

i gave him a second chance and now have cut it as his loss

i'm not even going to answer this

Is that an age old question ??
Its hard to be friends with someone you feel something for OR you feel you have been deceived OR you read the situation wrong...Or have I read you question wrong ?
Maybe its best to decide what sort of relationship you are going to have before you meet, if you can do that.

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Jeggea wrote:

53846 wrote: ladytracexx wrote: well personally i would try to be friends, but can see how it would be hard to remain friends if both parties are seeing things differently..depends on what you mean by deception..but if you felt something as friends then it should be tried at least to remain friends, but can see how two parties would see things differently..maybe it wont work..i dont know Too be honest I haven't got many friends, but I have loads of mates and acquaintances. I've been conversing with some people on some message boards for 7-8 years, but I haven't met many. Internet message boards are not the real world, I don't know how you can be friends with people on the Internet unless you have met them loads of times, let alone think you could have a relationship, except platonic or sexual. Maybe if they live local to you, but not miles away. Well..... i do not think i can say anything to that? although i do have to admitt you are very realistic.

Thanks....maybe it comes with age, OR , I dont know

well in my case..we had been playing poker online for months and chatting..then he is the one that made the move to go msging..then talking on the phone for hours and hours,,making flight plans and so forth...
i know of other people that have gone thru the same thing..men and women say and do two dif things...but can u still be friends or is the trust lost

Oh right i see now, yeah he was leading you up the garden path, his loss i reckon

ok everyone thank you for your input..but the real question is would u still be friends with that person..could u trust that person again

As I said, I don't know if you can really be real friends on Internet sites with people that live miles away and you may not have even met. Much the same with people you work with, it is a temporary friendship. Let alone have a relationship.
I can understand you can become infatuated with someones Internet persona, especially if you have had, or are still going through problems in your life. But its easy to misread someones intentions online. Plus there is the problem that people maybe sell themselves on these type sites, and maybe are not the same away from the keyboard.
Although I am exactly the same away from my keyboard

Nope, I don't think I'd remain friends. I'd rather have a few friends I could trust than a load of friends that I couldn't, so I wouldn't see the point in staying friends with this guy, whoever he is.

Not suggesting you do anything nasty towards him, I just wouldn't trust him again anytime soon.

Thanks Jay....and he is still telling our poker friends we will work it out...is he just plain stupid or what...NO i usually give people the benefit of the doubt the first time, second time is it..i dont care if its friends family or exes..