ok everyone thank you for your input..but the real question is would u still be friends with that person..could u trust that person again

I'm new to this site but i have a friend on another site since february 06 thought it was more but have kept it going for the value of her friendship go figure!

As I said, I don't know if you can really be real friends on Internet sites with people that live miles away and you may not have even met. Much the same with people you work with, it is a temporary friendship. Let alone have a relationship.
I can understand you can become infatuated with someones Internet persona, especially if you have had, or are still going through problems in your life. But its easy to misread someones intentions online. Plus there is the problem that people maybe sell themselves on these type sites, and maybe are not the same away from the keyboard.
Although I am exactly the same away from my keyboard

Nope, I don't think I'd remain friends. I'd rather have a few friends I could trust than a load of friends that I couldn't, so I wouldn't see the point in staying friends with this guy, whoever he is.

Not suggesting you do anything nasty towards him, I just wouldn't trust him again anytime soon.

Thanks Jay....and he is still telling our poker friends we will work it out...is he just plain stupid or what...NO i usually give people the benefit of the doubt the first time, second time is it..i dont care if its friends family or exes..

Hey hun, i have a slightly different view which is based on an experience i had, that i now regret. I'm not a very confident person. Maybe you think otherwise, based on my posts but face to face, you wouldn't see my ass for dust. I spent over 6 months talking to a girl via msn on a daily basis. She made it quite clear that she'd developed strong feelings for me and i have to admit i was (am) very fond of her. The more we chatted, the more she wanted us to meet. To be quite honest, i was shit scared because this was something much, much deeper. I made 101 excuses, but in reality i really wanted to meet her but didn't have the balls. She totally ignores me now because she thinks i was just taking her for a ride.

I suspect that your fella is the same. Internet dating is still very taboo. He's probably scared that his friends and family will disapprove, especially if it's long distance. My girl lives just 30 miles away and i fucked up big style. For him to spend so long chatting with you, he's definately interested but only you can decide if he's genuine or not...
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Hey Your man Forever,, the only one that would disapprove would be his mom. His best childhood friend and i know each other by phone and playing on the poker tables, his sister and all of our mutual friends have said go for it. Hell his best friend told him I was the best thing that has ever happened to him. And you all have to remember we talked on the phone for hours every nite, plus playing on the tables at the same time. No his physical need for comfort was what blew it..If i had been there or him here things would have worked out..And Yes he still wants to be best friends etc etc as he told our mutual friends..trust is gone bye bye

I'm sorry to hear that Aluria. You've obviously decided that it's a done deal so the only solution now is to cut all contact. Most of us trust friends more than lovers and he's lost your trust so not much good as either...
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