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Poll: Could you forgive someone if they cheated on you??

Could you forgive someone if they cheated on you??
yes
20%
 20%  [ 9 ]
no
79%
 79%  [ 34 ]
Total Votes : 43
 
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10.03.2007, 21:59 quote

bigdave88

I hate cheaters cant stand them and as you can probably tell it has happened to me I wouldnt be able to get the image out of my mind maybe Im small minded but Im a true believer in trust and faithfulness.

 
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10.03.2007, 23:58 quote

Anonymous

Have been cheated on in 2 relationships and both times were extreame cases. One who was a controling little cretin who thought it was fine to reduce me to a black and blue quivering wreck who would never say boo to a goose yet it took me catching him in my bed with my best friend for me to snap out of his control and stand up for myself (funny how i got arested for it though).
The second my sons father cheated on me throughout my pregnancy with my female boss. I thought i could move on from there and tried to forgive him. but eventually it eats you up till you have nothing left to cling on to. Then you just have to give up and move on, do what is best for all persons concerned.

So in answer to the poll no i could not forgive someone who cheated on me. I am one of those that if the person i am with has any reservations or wants to stray then id rather they told me so that we could either work out the reason or move on. I don't think i could face getting hurt again, id rather be alone.

 
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11.03.2007, 11:20 quote

Anonymous

I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.

 
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11.03.2007, 11:23 quote

Anonymous

My ex cheated again and again, it nearly killed me and everytime i forgave him, i would never ever put myself through that again,
id never cheat and i dont expect to be cheated on...if you love someone then you just wouldnt want to.

 
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11.03.2007, 12:48 quote

Anonymous

Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.

 
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11.03.2007, 19:44 quote

bigdave88

anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.

 
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11.03.2007, 19:49 quote

Anonymous

Hi Danni! I like your new picture!

 
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11.03.2007, 19:54 quote

Anonymous

bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.


So if a couple have an 'open' relationship, is that still cheating?

 
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11.03.2007, 19:56 quote

bigdave88

anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.


So if a couple have an 'open' relationship, is that still cheating?


Open relationships are an easy way for people to say they are not really commited to the person they are with its just an excuse to do what they want plain and simple.

 
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11.03.2007, 20:00 quote

Anonymous

bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.


So if a couple have an 'open' relationship, is that still cheating?


Open relationships are an easy way for people to say they are not really commited to the person they are with its just an excuse to do what they want plain and simple.


My dads best mate and his girfriend/wife have been together... gosh, must be nigh on 40 years by now!!! and it's only been in the last 12 years that they stopped 'sharing' themselves around. They love each other to bits and it shows in the care he now gives her due to Alzheimers (or something similar).

 
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11.03.2007, 20:02 quote

bigdave88

anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.


So if a couple have an 'open' relationship, is that still cheating?


Open relationships are an easy way for people to say they are not really commited to the person they are with its just an excuse to do what they want plain and simple.


My dads best mate and his girfriend/wife have been together... gosh, must be nigh on 40 years by now!!! and it's only been in the last 12 years that they stopped 'sharing' themselves around. They love each other to bits and it shows in the care he now gives her due to Alzheimers (or something similar).


I guess these guys have a totally different aspect on the relationship thing Im just offering my opinion.

 
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11.03.2007, 20:11 quote

Anonymous

bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.


So if a couple have an 'open' relationship, is that still cheating?


Open relationships are an easy way for people to say they are not really commited to the person they are with its just an excuse to do what they want plain and simple.


My dads best mate and his girfriend/wife have been together... gosh, must be nigh on 40 years by now!!! and it's only been in the last 12 years that they stopped 'sharing' themselves around. They love each other to bits and it shows in the care he now gives her due to Alzheimers (or something similar).


I guess these guys have a totally different aspect on the relationship thing Im just offering my opinion.


And there's nothing wrong with your opinion It's good to see how others look at things. My own opinions aren't totally cut n dried because of the different situations I've seen around me. I've seen couples where I've totally sympathised with the one having the affair and visa versa and I've seen one couple break up because they couldn't regain the trust, and another couple who totally got over it. In my opinion, nothing is ever as it seems.

 
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11.03.2007, 20:15 quote

Anonymous

god wrote:
Hi Danni! I like your new picture!


Why thank you god Smile

 
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11.03.2007, 20:16 quote

bigdave88

anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
bigdave88 wrote:
anothermansjulie wrote:
Baggiebhoy wrote:
I don't think I could give one definitive answer to that. It would depend on the person, how well I knew them, how I felt about them, etc. And the specifics of the cheating. I'd take it on a case-by-case basis.


Define cheating. And aside form that, I agree with baggy. Each situation is different. Aside form the obvious ones that Danni and Tinker have described (where to my mind, the behaviour of their other halves was intolerable), it's not always so cut and dried.


Cheating is cheating it doesnt always mean just love I class someone is cheating if they even kissed someone else ie (i mean not normal kissing here) if you are with someone then you should be totally commited to that person if you have any doubts or feel like straying then why are you with that person in the first place.


So if a couple have an 'open' relationship, is that still cheating?


Open relationships are an easy way for people to say they are not really commited to the person they are with its just an excuse to do what they want plain and simple.


My dads best mate and his girfriend/wife have been together... gosh, must be nigh on 40 years by now!!! and it's only been in the last 12 years that they stopped 'sharing' themselves around. They love each other to bits and it shows in the care he now gives her due to Alzheimers (or something similar).


I guess these guys have a totally different aspect on the relationship thing Im just offering my opinion.


And there's nothing wrong with your opinion It's good to see how others look at things. My own opinions aren't totally cut n dried because of the different situations I've seen around me. I've seen couples where I've totally sympathised with the one having the affair and visa versa and I've seen one couple break up because they couldn't regain the trust, and another couple who totally got over it. In my opinion, nothing is ever as it seems.


In my opinion people who want more than one sexual partner should really never get into a loving relationship and then have to cheat on the person they are with as from the start what really is the point of them starting it in the first place I am a true believer in trust and maybe someday I may find someone I can trust 100% but I aint holding my breath.

 
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11.03.2007, 20:39 quote

Anonymous

Quote:
See above


I could forgive a kiss, or maybe even a drunken one night stand, but anything beyond that and it would be a struggle. But it would depend on the person.

 
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