Ojk, so he wanted things his own way and got them. He obviously thought that you'd got engaged and bought a house so the next step would be marriage and babies, and it sounds as though he got scared. He didnt want to be tied down, he wanted to carry on the life as a single man and do his thing again. Which he has done.

However, while you were all alone, even though you weren't showing how upset you were, he still knew where you were, what you were doing and to some extent he still had a hold over you. But now, you have a new man in your life and he's thinking well this isn't right, she has no right to go and find someone else, (even though he's been dipping his toes all over the place). I obviously still feels the need to have some control in your life and is feeling jealous because you have someone new and even if he wanted to come back you wouldn't have him.

A word of advice - any dealings over the house don't talk to him, go through a solicitor/advocate and let them do all the talking. If you see him in the street, cross over the road or go into a shop. He's not worth it. He's just throwing all his toys out of the pram because you've moved on.

HHhmmmm, as I was reading this post i was thinking exactly the same as bexbex. You go girl !!!

See? I knew all those years of crap relationships would serve me well!!

God, i'm good.

I agree with everyone on the matter of using a solicitor to negotiate anything to do with the house.

/* Oh my, how things have changed since I lived in PE……

…..Nelson Mandela Metropolitan Municipality?? I think I’d feel quite lost if I went back there now. I wonder if the pub I used to gig on Saturdays is still there (The Stage Door, Chapel Street)? */

Well done Godess, you can be SO proud of yourself how well you are doing - tho you don't need me to tell you there will be the bad days, but hey it sounds like you've been thru some bad times already and are now stronger for it anyways...you go girl !!!!