Well here goes nothing. About 2 1/2 years ago i met a girl while i was still smokin pot and smokin cigs. I knew i had no chance with her while i was smoking anything so i asked her out and she asked me to quit so it tried and tried and finally 2 months in i managed to completely quit and i stayed clean for the next 12 months of the relationship. Then she dumped me like a bag of crap wont even speak to me.. Now i know i shoulda told her i was still smoking cigs the first 2 months but i never did and when i told her at the end of our relationship she freaked. its been almost 18 months since that happened and im still in love with her. I hate her guts she caused me more gried than anything but i just can't let go.

I've tried dating other ppl but they all just tell me come back when im over her. any suggestions on trying to get over this mountain so that i can move on with my life and quit "obsessing"(as my mates call it) over this girl

well i personally would just keep myself busy new image new hobbies and well done for giving up the pot it not easy, in time you should forget about her slowly you will, dont make any contact she seems a very heartless person to treat you this way, i mean to say you gave up pot and ciggies for her!!just stay clean and stay positive and if your not over her just stay single til u feel ready enjoi your freedom with your friends and good luck!!

This is obviously a difficult time but try to use this experience in a good way. I mean, I know that it´s difficult now but later you might be glad that you went through all this. When you meet the special someone again you will know what to do and what not to do in order to keep her In the meantime, stay focused on everything else than the girl, be open minded, meet new people and before you know it, someone else will catch your heart

Yeah, getting off the pot is hard...I smoked it continuously for about 7 years, morning, day and night and havent had a blow in 4 years now. Now days I just prefer a nice relaxing smoke of crack. In all seriousness, a sounds like an extreme reaction on her part to you smoking and I can totally understand the Hate/Love thing, that causes a huge amount of angst and messed up feelings man.

i think you have that problem cus she dumped you before you could loose intrest in her. i feel that way with my ex. time heals all wounds i hear. u need to just meet someone but never speak or her or think of her thats the best thing to do

great job quitting dude, shame your ex doesnt quite see it.are you saying she dumped you after you admitted it took 2 months to quit?