need sum folks thoughts on my current situation.

a lass ive known through a friend for 18 months decided to tell me she fancied me a year ago.i had a bit of a thing for her but shes been wi a lad for 4 years now so i decided to stay well clear.but then last april we got left alone at end of a night out and the enevitable happened and we kissed.we text each other fro a couple of weeks after and decided to meet to discuss things but the girl pulled out at last minute.a couple of months later we end up telling each other how we feel and decide to meet again but she calls off again and leaves me waiting in bar on my jack jones.

after that i decided to try and just go back to being friends but she started txting a couple of wks ago when she was out telling me how she felt again which angered me because in the morning i always get a sober sorry i shouldnt have said that txt.

know shes annoyed with me cos im ignoring her at nights out because i dont want to spill my guts out then have to forget bout it all the next day.

the thing is she lives in fife and cums thru to edinburgh for her uni course.she is in the last year of her course and wants to go travelling after and knows she will split with her bf when that happens.i think shes at a crossroads in her life but i know i dont fit in either of her plans which is why im baffled at her txts.

i feel like a sub who she calls on when shes not getting attention at home but dont know if thats the case or not and to be honest working women out aint my specialist subject lol.just wandered wat others would do.

sos i maybe didnt explain situation all that well. thanx for reading neway

"I feel like a sub....."
Summat my ma told me a long time ago that I usually find is correct.....if you feel used, you're probably right.
The real question is, while you doubt this girl's motives, how do you *really* feel about her? You're not even sure of her sincerity, and you say you already feel mucked about......You already know that she intends to give her current bloke the push when he no longer serves her purpose (ie pursue her own needs/wants at uni).... give it a good long think before you jump in with your hobnail boots at the deep end and quite possibly get hurt and/or make a complete tit of yourself.

thanks for the advice. i can see were ur cumin from but im always worried that im paranoid and she aint using me.shes a sweet girl i just think she tries to live two lives one in fife and one in edinburgh.

Laura . I reckon you could help Mulder out , and you wouldnt even have to open your mouth

well maybe just a little bit