Hi All I really need your help and advice on this one. I'll detail the outline then tell me what you think I should do (by the way, I am in the north, my man originally came from the South) We met through work in May 05 and moved in together. Everything was perfect we were so in love. In August this year I got kept on by the company and he didn't, which put an awful strain on the relationship. Ever since then, he's been distant and withdrawn (which I understood) and he has been in a dead end job since. In October he told me he had bought a house to do up in Devon (just around the corner from his mother) but he said he wanted to find a job. Recently I asked him what we were doing as a couple for xmas, only to be heart broken to be told he was spending it in Devon with his family and that in January 2007 he was moving out to renovate his house. I still truely beleive that once he has got his head back around things and he's renovated his house we stand a chance of getting back what we had. His comments were that he was sick of going around in circles and doesn't envisage our relationship lasting, he asked if we could work on our friendship instead!!!! He did however say that he still loves me, but feels that since September this year we have drifted apart. I think it's down to the fact that he's been bored at work. I really do not know what to do ... I love him, he's my soulmate and I don't want to lose him. Any advice greatly appreciated. xxx

where are my manors... welcome to the boards!
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i can imagine how hurt you must feel, so im sorry to hear that first off. i think you probably need to sit down together and have a good heart to heart, you need to know the real reasons why he feels this way, and from that you can decide wether or not you can put things right. my guess is he has already made his mind up, hence the commitment to buying a house and moving out, but if he still loves you then there could be some hope of sorting it out, if only you can both work through the things that are driving you apart.

i personally dont beleive that people just 'drift apart' i think they 'let it slide' and maybe thats all thats happened? good luck with that anyway, i hope you can find whats best for you both.

Thank you for you advice, much appreciated. Oh, and thank you for welcoming me to the boards .... I'm a bit nervous as I've done this sort of stuff before

xx

welcome we are all mad here so just be yourself and we will accept you have fun

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its official got the call back today ladies you have three months or im becoming a monk

watch out for morrilo!
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yes watch out for him and never turn your back on him
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its official got the call back today ladies you have three months or im becoming a monk

a very nasty surprise
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its official got the call back today ladies you have three months or im becoming a monk

yes
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its official got the call back today ladies you have three months or im becoming a monk

Good to see some excellent replies from both Scottie and Kevin. It's one of the bonus's of these forums, getting a perspective from the opposite love.

I've nothing really to add other than give him a bit of space.

Good luck Chattypuss and welcome to the boards