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16.08.2006, 20:57 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating  Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone  |
friendship then love...
lusting is just imagining for short period what you would like to happen, and wishing for a certain out come, played out in your own mind..
Friendship is finding out about the person, not just imagining what they are like, but really discovering the true them, and understanding whats in their mind also..
therefore, building stronger foundations for any type of relationship to continue..
21.08.2006, 11:57 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone |
Friendship then love then lust. A good balanced relationship has aspects of all 3.
22.08.2006, 16:53 quote
Aww u must have missed the thread i started where it said "friends first then love" boo hoo not reading any of my stuff "tears down the cheek"
22.08.2006, 17:15 quote
well it is said that the stages are
1) lust
2) Attraction
3) Attachment
Biochemically speaking..lol
Lust is driven by the love hormones testosterone and oestrogen..
Attraction is the truly love-struck phase..here Dopamine, Norephiephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin are released..serotonin is the most important here and the one that can send us temporarily insane...(events occuring in the brain when in love have similarities with mental illness)
Attachment stage is when relationship will last...and involves two hormones being released..Oxytin (released by both sexes during orgasm and promotes bonding) and vasopressin..
omg..i really must get out more..lol
22.08.2006, 17:19 quote
| 53846 wrote: |
| well it is said that the stages are
1) lust 2) Attraction 3) Attachment Biochemically speaking..lol Lust is driven by the love hormones testosterone and oestrogen.. Attraction is the truly love-struck phase..here Dopamine, Norephiephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin are released..serotonin is the most important here and the one that can send us temporarily insane...(events occuring in the brain when in love have similarities with mental illness) Attachment stage is when relationship will last...and involves two hormones being released..Oxytin (released by both sexes during orgasm and promotes bonding) and vasopressin.. omg..i really must get out more..lol |
22.08.2006, 19:26 quote
| 53846 wrote: |
| well it is said that the stages are
1) lust 2) Attraction 3) Attachment Biochemically speaking..lol Lust is driven by the love hormones testosterone and oestrogen.. Attraction is the truly love-struck phase..here Dopamine, Norephiephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin are released..serotonin is the most important here and the one that can send us temporarily insane...(events occuring in the brain when in love have similarities with mental illness) Attachment stage is when relationship will last...and involves two hormones being released..Oxytin (released by both sexes during orgasm and promotes bonding) and vasopressin.. omg..i really must get out more..lol |
I was going to post something like this along these lines..v. interesting though, all of are feelings are controlled by neuro-transmitters in the brain, so right about the similarities between being slightly mentally ill & being in love, imbalances in dopamine levels is the main cause for schizophrenia & depletion of serotonin levels is the cause of depressive/psychosis type illnesses, the drug ecstasy (in a hugely amplified way) effects the serotonin uptake receptors & is called the 'love drug' as slang & cocaine effects exactly the same chemical receptors in the brain as when your in love (dopamine), I find it strange though that prozac works on exactly the same chemical in the brain as does xtc (serotonin), & one is legal & prescribed to people like giving out smarties but thats another thread. brave new world??
23.08.2006, 15:46 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: | ||||
If only I could say i had a best friend like that  |
23.08.2006, 15:54 quote
as you know Trace, i have always said friends first, and the ones that i have become friends with and then had love were more affectionate and loving, OMG does this mean he will be the best, i do believe so.
23.08.2006, 15:57 quote
My best friend was my greatest love... or was was my greatest love my best friend? 
24.09.2006, 20:32 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: | ||||
Good god man!!!! Now just how many people have you shown your Butterfly collection to now??? |
Hasn't everyone seen his butterflies by now?
25.09.2006, 07:53 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone |
If you're looking for a life partner
friendship is more important then lust. But if its purely a sexual relationship its lust, friendship doesn't really matter IMO.
A bit of both is best though
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