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16.08.2006, 19:39 quote
Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating 
Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone 
16.08.2006, 19:57 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone |
friendship then love...
lusting is just imagining for short period what you would like to happen, and wishing for a certain out come, played out in your own mind..
Friendship is finding out about the person, not just imagining what they are like, but really discovering the true them, and understanding whats in their mind also..
therefore, building stronger foundations for any type of relationship to continue..
17.08.2006, 05:12 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone |
Ok well being a blonde! it took me a couple of times to get what i think you were trying to say!
I am in no doubt that friendship should come first and built upon, in hope that love follows the natural progression. All to often lust can be confused for love even when the relationship becomes sexual. Often confusing sexual compatibility with real true deep feelings.
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17.08.2006, 18:59 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: | ||
Ok well being a blonde! it took me a couple of times to get what i think you were trying to say!
I am in no doubt that friendship should come first and built upon, in hope that love follows the natural progression. All to often lust can be confused for love even when the relationship becomes sexual. Often confusing sexual compatibility with real true deep feelings. |
21.08.2006, 10:57 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| Been thinking about this for a while, trying to be honest with myself would like some imput? I have trawled through threads can't see something that I could have added this if i have missed one sorry?
Whats your take on this between two people which of these statements do you believe is right try not to sit on wall by saying both thats cheating Lust then love or Friendship and then love both leading to a sexual relationship not just friendship hope this makes some sense to someone |
Friendship then love then lust. A good balanced relationship has aspects of all 3.
21.08.2006, 13:46 quote
| redoctober wrote: | ||
Friendship then love then lust. A good balanced relationship has aspects of all 3. |
Is'nt it true never sleep with a friend
21.08.2006, 14:23 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: | ||||
Is'nt it true never sleep with a friend |
Well it depends if that friend is about to become your lover and partner
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21.08.2006, 15:57 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: | ||||||
Well it depends if that friend is about to become your lover and partner |
Were is that hair dye now..............
22.08.2006, 15:53 quote
Aww u must have missed the thread i started where it said "friends first then sex" boo hoo not reading any of my stuff "tears down the cheek"
22.08.2006, 16:00 quote
| Aluria wrote: |
| Aww u must have missed the thread i started where it said "friends first then sex" boo hoo not reading any of my stuff "tears down the cheek" |
O so sorry
22.08.2006, 16:15 quote
well it is said that the stages are
1) lust
2) Attraction
3) Attachment
Biochemically speaking..lol
Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen..
Attraction is the truly love-struck phase..here Dopamine, Norephiephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin are released..serotonin is the most important here and the one that can send us temporarily insane...(events occuring in the brain when in love have similarities with mental illness)
Attachment stage is when relationship will last...and involves two hormones being released..Oxytin (released by both sexes during orgasm and promotes bonding) and vasopressin..
omg..i really must get out more..lol
22.08.2006, 16:19 quote
| 53846 wrote: |
| well it is said that the stages are
1) lust 2) Attraction 3) Attachment Biochemically speaking..lol Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen.. Attraction is the truly love-struck phase..here Dopamine, Norephiephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin are released..serotonin is the most important here and the one that can send us temporarily insane...(events occuring in the brain when in love have similarities with mental illness) Attachment stage is when relationship will last...and involves two hormones being released..Oxytin (released by both sexes during orgasm and promotes bonding) and vasopressin.. omg..i really must get out more..lol |
22.08.2006, 18:26 quote
| 53846 wrote: |
| well it is said that the stages are
1) lust 2) Attraction 3) Attachment Biochemically speaking..lol Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen.. Attraction is the truly love-struck phase..here Dopamine, Norephiephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin are released..serotonin is the most important here and the one that can send us temporarily insane...(events occuring in the brain when in love have similarities with mental illness) Attachment stage is when relationship will last...and involves two hormones being released..Oxytin (released by both sexes during orgasm and promotes bonding) and vasopressin.. omg..i really must get out more..lol |
I was going to post something like this along these lines..v. interesting though, all of are feelings are controlled by neuro-transmitters in the brain, so right about the similarities between being slightly mentally ill & being in love, imbalances in dopamine levels is the main cause for schizophrenia & depletion of serotonin levels is the cause of depressive/psychosis type illnesses, the drug ecstasy (in a hugely amplified way) effects the serotonin uptake receptors & is called the 'love drug' as slang & cocaine effects exactly the same chemical receptors in the brain as when your in love (dopamine), I find it strange though that prozac works on exactly the same chemical in the brain as does xtc (serotonin), & one is legal & prescribed to people like giving out smarties but thats another thread. brave new world??
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