hello

am an man seeking a woman for a friendship or a date, maybe a friend at first then later a long term relationship.

Sure this is all presupposing that the two are not mutally inclusive. You can have one, the other or both. If past experiences has taught you that you cant then I suggest you look up Falsification on Google. The idea is simple, no matter how many white swans you count this does not prove the that there are no black swans.
Just because it has happened in the past does not mean it cannot happen.
Make your lives easy and don't dwell on such question, get out there and try things without preconceptions.

hi all .i'm here to let u all know.nice lover is hard to fine ,