sorry, I felt post was a little heavy...so I deleted it

i had a lot of problems with my kids dad.. but the final straw was when i would flinch if he even came close to touching me.

i am a very high sexed person and this was so shocking to me that i had to get out of that relationship. i spent about two years wondering if it was me, if it was my own sex drive that had totally and utterly disappeared. in time i came to realise that it was not me at all... it was the attraction. or lack of. i simply did not fancy him anymore to the point of avoiding any intimate moments. it all came to a head when i was out and ended up having sex with an ex of mine. the one and only time i ever cheated. and i went right home, told him what happened and asked him to leave. i think he was so shocked that he forgot to hit me on the way out!
rofl.

now i am single and happy being so. the last few days i have forgotten that i am happy being single. meeting a guy is not the be all and end all for me.

so yes, there are other people who love people they don't fancy. it just turned out to be more of a "i loved him but i wasn't IN love with him" thing.