How do you handle jealousy?

I have recently worked out that I am much more jealous as a girlfriend than I ever wanted or thought I was.

Anyone else have this problem, or know a way to combat it?

x x x

You could kill your boyfriend?

No I couldn't kill my bf.

I don't know what kind of jealousy it is at the moment. We are having a sort of long distance relationship at the moment, and its not a huge stuggle me being here and him being home. I suppose I'm just jealous I'm not in his life as much as I would like to bbe, if that makes sense?

x x x

Well it doesn't look like there's much you can do about it, so i'd suggest sending him a cardboard cutout of yourself.

That way, you can be in his life all day long! (as long as he takes the cutout with him everywhere)

I'm not sure you can combat it..maybe suppress it, but it will always be there IMO. I've known people that have had to live with it. There are books around about coming to terms with it.

Sorry I cant be anymore help.

long distance relationships are the hardest when it comes to jealousy...you just have to trust and be trusted...good luck to you, i do know how u feel been there

If its jealousy, Try not to think about it when you know he's out on the piss. My last girlfriend was very unfaithfull and i found it difficult at times knowing when she was going on a girls night dealing with my lack of trust and jealousy, Endlessly worrying if she was with someone because she was drunk, or if things got rowdy or god knows what. If the suspicions or worries got too bad id just watch a movie and pass the time, or find something to do and stop me brooding.

Ironically when we broke up, i didn't know what she was up to anymore and i found the life after the relationship much easier than when we were together.

If it is jealousy the worst thing you can do is brood on it, because you just feed your own suspicions and nightmares.

Nothing you can do about it.It gets better with experience

I only got jealous with my ex towards the end of the relationship, and I got jealous because she destroyed my confidence in her and gave me no reason to trust her anymore.

If I trust someone 100% then jealousy never comes into my life.

I don't get jealous over material things or something like that, if you get me.
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i am scared to go back into a relationship because of my jealousy, BUT my sister said she was the same, but she is with her fella a yr and a half now and she said she hasnt got jealous once, that she trusts him 100% so there is hope for us all cause she use to get very jealous
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Most issues around jealousy are about control, insecurity, distrust, make us feel out of control.
CONTROLLING never works!
Working on our insecurities does, if we find someone worthy of our trust!