Why do people say that beauty isnt just skin deep when clearly it is. I may not be even close to being decently attractive but i know i am average. I also have no problem talking to guys, sometimes i dont want a relationship with them just a bit of fun so why is now that i want to be with someone can i not find anyone apart from those that want fun or just wanna be mates ....so why is it that i cant find a bloke who wants to be with me? what do you think of my picture? I just cant help thinking there is something wrong with me, they seem ok with me then when they find out that i have to take meds (not a big or obvious illness just sms to scare men and i only tell if they ask!) every day and stuff they all scarper, it just seems like there isnt a decent man that i am meant to meet lol

hi ya foxy!

Now that is definitely the 1 million pound question!

I find the exactly same thing! a twist though even if it's just mates or Fun is the best possible sense of the word! I have found that messages i send aren't responded too and even looking at the number of views my profile has had i scratch my head and wonder is there something wrong with me?

Before anyone opens fire please i am not at my most confident at the moment and exceptionally sensitive to even the slightest put down! Been off work now for almost 8 weeks and rarely leave my home!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

i dont send many messages to be honest i get more sent to me ... i didnt want to sound big headed then, most my mates are lads but its that they onoly want to be mates or they take what they can get then scarper

You seem very pretty to me Foxyhan, but i know where your comming from. As eccles put it, its a milion dollar question. I don't think the meaningful relationship your looking for is unatainable, its just the combining the mates and the fun factor into one person bit your stuck on, just like the rest of us Its Frustrating having to deal with it i know but it makes finding the right person all the much better.

well i think your very pretty and as all here knows..i probably am the least one to talk,,i am the oldest and i always feel i am not sexy,pretty enough for alot of the men here or anywhere...but have been proven wrong..there is a big jungle out there, weed out the crap and u will find yours hun...welcome to our wonderful friendly forums wher u will always get good advice

Hey i certainly do'nt think it's unobtainable! i am beginning to think that it wont be here though. The competion is such that the ratios are un balanced and unfortunately the players out number the decent chappies!

My advice would be to put as few obstacles in the way of limiting the people who will reply to you????
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

kev you are spot on too! BUT the decent chaps seem to stick to the forums. Even then some fade into obscurity! Taking the ratios though if you remove the gay females from the equation then the numbers become even less balanced! They say a leopard cant change its spots well thats me!!! i certainly have no intention of changing my style!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Unfortunately I have the same problem. (Except the majority of people don't even want to be my friend ) I'm not looking for fun, or a relationship, just friends. Anything else would be a bonus

Also, most people are shallow. They look at a person, if they like how the person looks, they'll try to get to know them, and so on.

A lot of people say they don't care about looks. Can the honestly say that, and mean it?

I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you.

im glad that its not just me its just i sometimes get to a point where i really think there is something wrong with me and then i can mentally list all my bad points and i cant think of any good ones!

Been there, done that.

I have now realised that I do have good points, so I focus on them.
Everybody has days where they think 'what is wrong with me'

Truth is, it's not you, it's them. Seriously.

it would be nice for me when i can make that work for me lol one day it will just gotta build self up ... got confidence, just not much self esteem

This time last year I had almost no confidence or self esteem.

Just think positive thoughts.