i am treemonkey age 20. every time i have tryed to meet girls but never have the courage. every time i am round a girl that i like i go all quite. 3 times this year i have tryed. but only one girl and me became close but she broke my heart by kissing someone write in front of me. i ha even told how i felt about her in a letter. plz give me some advice i am lossing all hope.

Wow! tough question that, maybe you need to try and find out why you go quiet....whats making you do that? maybe try to hang out with some female friends for a while, and just enjoy yourself.

bear in mind that women can be cruel your only 20 dont give up yet do you go out as well dont just relie on the net if she did that to you she aint worth it sorry to say it but think of it this way if she's gonna do that in front of youwhat she doing when your not there? it may not be soemthing your doing wrong it may be the women your going for, never show a woman your weaknesses they'll use it if they have to.
does that make sense?

lol ........... your a muppet x

Yeah, the going quiet thing is a problem.
Confidence is an attractive trait, but it's hard to just turn on confidence.
Maybe you should get more girl mates in your life, and get used to talking with them, taking the piss out of them and finding out what sort of stuff they find funny.

Has anyone told you that you look like Silar out of heroes?
(that's not a bad look, btw!)

thank u ppl. thanks for the advice. i will definately keep that in mind.

going quiet when meeting girls is not uncommon, if you look around all you see are couples and men who find it easy to find a girlfriend!
There is alot of merit to hanging out with girls who are friends because there's no pressure for you to 'pull', and that probably why you struggle, because you are heaping tons of pressure on yourself to find a girlfriend!
i'd probably say don't bother trying to find a girlfriend, just try talking to girls who are friends or friends of friends without thinking about taking it any further. Afterall, most of the time when you stop searching for something, you usually find it afterwards!

going quiet round girls is kind of like self-imposed pressure. Like you're thinking if you say the wrong thing its gonna be blown. Like you're there to impress her. Forget that sh*t. When you meet the right girl it'll be natural. If you've got/had friends who are female, that kind of naturalness is what you're looking for. If it aint there more effort on your part won't produce it. Sounds like that girl you did get was taking advantage of you. Clearly had no morals about jumping ship when something she liked better turned up. If anything this should illustrate the need to not put them on pedestals nor jump in feet/heart first at the first sign of interest. Be cool.

y'know if you're not a natural at it, this dating thing is a learning process. The more you do it the better you will get, as long as you take the time, to try and figure out where you go wrong and believe me you will/have done. When I first started I made some really bad decisions, had dates with completely unsuitable females and didnt know when to give up.

You've got to get it wrong before you know how to get it right.