When a guy walks into a pub alone, people look and think ...he's desperate...when he sits in a resaurant alone..people think his crazy...etc...etc...but when a woman does this it's a whole different response....why is that?

It's all about looking confident.

People also think that women look sad on their own. Personally, I don't care what others think.

Have to agree with you...don't you think that it's a shame that people look at singles in such a way....Maybe their lives are so boring they have nothing better to do?

I'm thinking that's exactly what it is.

I (male) walk into a pub alone have no problem, I might stand quiet at the bar or talk sh1t with the staff. Maybe I go to pubs where people still talk as opposed to bars where people go to be seen ?

Dining alone is a different matter, people assume that you are dining for pleasure but when you are working away from home you have little choice (other than fast food joint - oh my rapidly expanding waistline) and you do get sympathetic/saddo glances from the staff depending on their mood. I don't think this one is gender related though, my female collegues say they have similar resturant experiances but complain that they hate the male attention when they go into a pub alone.

mmm...know what you mean...murphys law...when you want a quiet drink, you never do...

lmao

i personally cannot walk into a bar on my own if i know there is nobody i know in there.... i guess im self conscious. i dunno.

I must admit i find it really hard to be in a pub on my own..its fine walking in, but after half an hour things start to feel uncomfortable..
For a start, most pubs now do not allow smoking at the bar..which means then you have to go and sit down, just to make you stand out even more..and also found that most other people in there are with friends, so approaching anyone to strike up a convo with, means entering into their circle..not an easy thing to do..
So left with sitting on own or if really desperate, trying to talk with the Non-smoking village idiot whos propping up the bar..
So kinda given up going into pubs..lol

I have no problem finding people to talk to in pubs.

I was waiting for my sister and friends on monday afternoon, and a group of people invited me to sit and talk to them. I thought that was pretty nice.

i agree with you there..i am definately a person who waits to be approached first, but funny enough, only in pubs/clubs. If was out during the day, i would feel so much more at ease and could approach someone much easier..
Basically, when in the situation where its expected of people to 'pull' each other, then i am very reserved..but that may come from not going out in eves much i suppose..i am unsure as its all new..
blimey..i am doing self therapy on myself now..lol

Think this has come about from not ever going out and doing the dating thing when young, then entering a long term relationship (13yrs)...

blimey..24 ok i will stop whinging..lol

it has made you the person you are today...i know what you mean though..the outside world is scary but the nightmare will end and you will move on..
I am sure of that..