ok people.....Tony has kissed a girl, physically attracted to her, feels guilty as hell for it, but she is there and i am here...i say in a way he has cheated, but then i can understand the physical attraction and the loneliness of us being separated....so wheres the trust...
what do u think is this cheating????

the so insecure/hatin right now aluria

if its a snog then yer id say thats cheating, snogging is sexual expression, if you express your sexuality with another person outside your monogamous relationship as far as i am concerned thats cheating. providing both know that they are in a monagamous relationship.

I dont know the situation with you and tony (coz i'm new ) but i reckon its definately cheating .. i had a relationship for 14 months me being in scotland and him in england, and i would have ended it if that had happened, then again there arent many that would have confessed so maybe he felt guily and knows hes made a mistake (difficult one )

You already know what I think about this, Faith.

i feel the same as laura i'm afraid. there is no compromise with trust. and there is no degrees of cheating. cheating is cheating. and a kiss definitely constitutes as cheating. sorry hunni

Guilty as charged....cut his balls off....

On a serious note yes its cheating...not in a big way but its still an abuse of your trust in him Aluria.

Aluria,

Read all the posts and take all the good advice from them..... but at the end of the day only you and Tony can sort this out!

You need to find out the reasons WHY he did it and if you believe and trust in him that it was a one off then 'what cannot kill you only makes you stronger'.

Yes it was bad, yes he should not have done it, but only in your heart can you make those decisions to forgive or not!

Pol x

Anyone heard from Aluria at all?

thank you all for your support and honesty,,it is greatly appreciated to know i hve such good friends here...a few of u know that u are extremely special to me and will always be in my hearts..as for the problem,, my mind says he can go screw himself, but my heart well thats another matter

thanks again so much

luv u kev...u have been there for me the most in all this....you are my rock