ok people.....Tony has kissed a girl, physically attracted to her, feels guilty as hell for it, but she is there and i am here...i say in a way he has cheated, but then i can understand the physical attraction and the loneliness of us being separated....so wheres the trust...
what do u think is this cheating????

the so insecure/hatin right now aluria

if its a snog then yer id say thats cheating, snogging is sexual expression, if you express your sexuality with another person outside your monogamous relationship as far as i am concerned thats cheating. providing both know that they are in a monagamous relationship.

I agree to a certain extent!
Being physically attracted to someone is something we all come across! As long as the attraction doesn't go the whole hog and develop into a sexual thing then it's not a big deal!
As for the kiss? Well i 've kissed girls when i have been in a relationship and yes there is the guilt trip afterwards!
The serious question is can you trust each other or to be more precise aluria can you trust Tony? distance will always be a problem! believe me i do speak from experience!
I think i would be inclined to accept it as a one off event! Rap his knuckles and let him know in no uncertain terms what will happen if he does it again!
Also remember he did tell you! It could have been more and he kept it hidden from you!
So a knuckle rap and a second chance would be my solution!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

I dont know the situation with you and tony (coz i'm new ) but i reckon its definately cheating .. i had a relationship for 14 months me being in scotland and him in england, and i would have ended it if that had happened, then again there arent many that would have confessed so maybe he felt guily and knows hes made a mistake (difficult one )

You already know what I think about this, Faith.

i feel the same as laura i'm afraid. there is no compromise with trust. and there is no degrees of cheating. cheating is cheating. and a kiss definitely constitutes as cheating. sorry hunni

Guilty as charged....cut his balls off....

On a serious note yes its cheating...not in a big way but its still an abuse of your trust in him Aluria.

Aluria,

Read all the posts and take all the good advice from them..... but at the end of the day only you and Tony can sort this out!

You need to find out the reasons WHY he did it and if you believe and trust in him that it was a one off then 'what cannot kill you only makes you stronger'.

Yes it was bad, yes he should not have done it, but only in your heart can you make those decisions to forgive or not!

Pol x

I'm sorry but the more I think about this the more I have top agree with everyone else

Anyone heard from Aluria at all?