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01.04.2008, 17:20 quote

megalone

Such an easy question to answer with a lie.

Putting it another way, in what sort of situation would you cheat if in a long term relationship with someone?
When I was younger (18-24) I would think nothing of sleeping with someone else as part of a night out partying, even when in relationships that lasted over a year.
In my defence, it rarely meant anything, if I ever remembered it at all, but it not worth trying to explain that one when you get caught, it makes things worse (!).
So try being totally honest, how faithful are you?

 

01.04.2008, 17:27 quote

baggiebhoy
baggiebhoy Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 5466 Location: United Kingdom, England, West Midlands
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Personnally, I would never cheat. If I did, then it would be exceptional circumstances, and I would end whatever relationship I was in there and then.

I think its called zero tolerance.
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01.04.2008, 17:29 quote

shirazkhan
shirazkhan Joined: 28 Jan 2007 Posts: 1166 Location: United Kingdom, Scotland, Glasgow
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Nope. i wouldnt. if i was in a relationship i just dont pay attention to any advances by any other female.

it's a byproduct of me looking at the one i'm in a relationship with 24/7.

that said, i'm naive and loyal to a fault.

 

01.04.2008, 17:29 quote

annmarie5988

I can say with my hand on my heart i have never and would never be unfaithful ............... treat other's how you want to be treated is my motto ......... no matter how young or old you are ............... x

 

01.04.2008, 17:39 quote

megalone

I used to be a dirty slut, when I was younger, and couldn't help but look at other women.
But when I was with my ex (who I was with for 10 years), I NEVER looked at other women in that way.
In fact, I turned down the chance of a threesome for that reason too, which she actually found out about anyway, and treated me like I'd shagged the pair of them anyway! (but that's a different story.....)
Now, I think I would be afraid of looking at other women in that way, if only because I have had friends who have cheated on their partners regularly, and actually fallen in love with someone else.
How exactly do you handle THAT situation? Being in love with two people at once would have to be one of the hardest things to get through.......
(By that I mean REAL love, not just fucky-fucky every Friday night after the pub).
I think that is why I know that I wouldn't cheat now, even though my past has been a little 'colourful'........

 

01.04.2008, 17:46 quote

s6boystu
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i agree with what baggiebhoy said..

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Personnally, I would never cheat. If I did, then it would be exceptional circumstances, and I would end whatever relationship I was in there and then.


i don't see the point in cheating... if you feel the urge to sleep with someone else, then there's obviously something wrong with the relationship your currently in.. Confused

One of my ex's cheated on me (twice even) and then had the nerve to say it was my fault for working too many hours..
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01.04.2008, 17:50 quote

shirazkhan
shirazkhan Joined: 28 Jan 2007 Posts: 1166 Location: United Kingdom, Scotland, Glasgow
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megalone wrote:
I used to be a dirty slut,


what do you mean used to? Laughing

megalone wrote:
Now, I think I would be afraid of looking at other women in that way, if only because I have had friends who have cheated on their partners regularly, and actually fallen in love with someone else.
How exactly do you handle THAT situation? Being in love with two people at once would have to be one of the hardest things to get through.......
(By that I mean REAL love, not just fucky-fucky every Friday night after the pub).


that is a tricky situation, i was in that predicament once but i never let "junior" do the thinking in that case. it was unfeasable and since i dont go bedding someone on the first instance; i prefer a bit of buildup.

i can see, however, how it would be easy for someone to fall in love like that. it's not very smart and mostly constructed on some very shoddy reasoning.

doomed from the beginning, that coming from an optimist.

 

01.04.2008, 18:17 quote

xxxgemziexxx
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when i was like 16, 17 i did cheat but i was young and daft and always drunk but now id never cheat on any1 , i just couldnt treat any1 badly cos i know how it feels cos im always the one getting treated badly and messed about Rolling Eyes
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01.04.2008, 19:11 quote

macca65
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When I was younger I wasn't interested in relationships, just sex, so I never considered myself as being unfaithful.....and a Saturday night out in Glasgow meant there were lots of opportunities!
Now I'm older and wiser, it's a different story....I was with my ex for 11 years and wasn't even remotely interested in other women in that time.
Same now, one's enough for me!

 

01.04.2008, 19:19 quote

Anonymous

ive been cheated on 3 times and cheated once, ....all in all not a bad record, ....i'm not proud of it but you know i though whats good for the goose ...........its not really in my nature though and never has a happy ending

 

01.04.2008, 20:19 quote

katie6

personaly i would never cheat because i have seen the pain it can cause and iv had to help pick up the pieces. i feel that if you feel the urge to cheat on your partner then you shouldnt be with them.

 

01.04.2008, 21:28 quote

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wantyounow37 wrote:
ive been cheated on 3 times and cheated once, ....all in all not a bad record, ....i'm not proud of it but you know i though whats good for the goose ...........


was it worth it ? or was it purely as a 'revenge' thing ?
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01.04.2008, 23:15 quote

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s6boystu wrote:
wantyounow37 wrote:
ive been cheated on 3 times and cheated once, ....all in all not a bad record, ....i'm not proud of it but you know i though whats good for the goose ...........


was it worth it ? or was it purely as a 'revenge' thing ?
well as the person concerned was purely after a week of sex id say no not really. Not a revenge thing at all. Sure was fun at the time but im at an age now where i want more. you could say i was seduced, ...(very easily) as she s pretty hot lol

 

01.04.2008, 23:31 quote

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I definitely wouldn't cheat on a partner, as I was on the receiving end myself and know how awful that feels. Twisted Evil So even though I've had the odd date with someone who is in a relationship, once I've known the situation I've not allowed them to use me for their cheating.

However, there are many kinds of acceptable relationships these days, so when I meet a guy, I just like to get it sorted as to what we're wanting from being together and go on from there. Very Happy

 

02.04.2008, 01:57 quote

pasleptsiekare

I have cheated on one boyfriend. He had cheated on me several times over the 2 and a half years we were together, plus there were other......issues. I basically cheated because I KNEW he'd dump me (He did, and not in a nice way, either.)

I would NEVER cheat on somebody again, though.

My first two boyfriends both cheated on me. Confused

 
 
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