Such an easy question to answer with a lie.

Putting it another way, in what sort of situation would you cheat if in a long term relationship with someone?
When I was younger (18-24) I would think nothing of sleeping with someone else as part of a night out partying, even when in relationships that lasted over a year.
In my defence, it rarely meant anything, if I ever remembered it at all, but it not worth trying to explain that one when you get caught, it makes things worse (!).
So try being totally honest, how faithful are you?

I used to be a dirty slut, when I was younger, and couldn't help but look at other women.
But when I was with my ex (who I was with for 10 years), I NEVER looked at other women in that way.
In fact, I turned down the chance of a threesome for that reason too, which she actually found out about anyway, and treated me like I'd shagged the pair of them anyway! (but that's a different story.....)
Now, I think I would be afraid of looking at other women in that way, if only because I have had friends who have cheated on their partners regularly, and actually fallen in love with someone else.
How exactly do you handle THAT situation? Being in love with two people at once would have to be one of the hardest things to get through.......
(By that I mean REAL love, not just fucky-fucky every Friday night after the pub).
I think that is why I know that I wouldn't cheat now, even though my past has been a little 'colourful'........

ive been cheated on 3 times and cheated once, ....all in all not a bad record, ....i'm not proud of it but you know i though whats good for the goose ...........its not really in my nature though and never has a happy ending

personaly i would never cheat because i have seen the pain it can cause and iv had to help pick up the pieces. i feel that if you feel the urge to cheat on your partner then you shouldnt be with them.

Ive been in love with 2 people at the same time Megs, and it was really really hard. I was young and you do get into wanting more and the not cheating regime but at the time i did cheat, i never set out to do it and i can honestly say it wasnt just a love thing i loved him as a person and all that came along with him but i loved the man who was my boyfriend. It was a bit like a paralell universe and im very glad its done with.

If there is one thing that will always send my world into an out of control spiral, it is love.
That is when things are going hunky dory, so christ knows how it would affect me if I REALLY loved two people and had to choose, I really don't think I could........

I have never cheated, and I never will.
In recent months me and my fella drifted apart, I told him I wanted to meet someone else and joined this website - met a couple of people but it didnt feel right, even just one hour first and only meeting in a pub felt like i was cheating.....we talked and now we are back together. sort of. Havent seen him for nearly 7 weeks, even then just a quick cuppa in a cafe, but his mum is terminally ill and he is on autopilot these days, what can i say. I have to take a back seat, help where and when needed, and still i wont cheat, let alone even look at another guy.
My last fella i was with for 5 yrs and he cheated on me with a ummm 'friend'. She knew he was with me. And she lived witih her fella too. I told them when they got married good luck you are both cheats, will you stay faithful to each other? Ha! about a month later he was at my door, didnt let him in the cheeky git. They deserved each other.
I would never cheat on my fella or if i was single with a 'taken' man.

I wasnt trying to judge or condemn all 'cheaters', honest! I was just saying from my own perspective, the fella that cheat on me was having love with her behind my back, and her fella too, and they only came clean cuz they wanted to get married. I was clueless about it, if they hadnt wanted to get married, how long would it have gone on?
I dont think anyone can give a clear definition of 'cheating'. Some will say its just a thought straying, some define it as just the sexual act, others will even say thats not cheating if it means nothing.....
I dont know. To me i suppose cheating could be defined perhaps as when your feelings are straying along with the physical stuff - doing anything "intimate" behind the back of the person you are 'in a relationship with' to me is cheating.
When you have feelings for someone else but stay with the other person for whatever reason - ultimately you are cheating yourself, and Redelicious I am glad you had the strength to leave like you did.
I just think cheating is one of those words like love that everyone has a different take on it, so no i wouldnt outright condemn all 'cheaters' according to my own personal scale cuz like you say, unless i walk in their shoes, who knows why what where when etc?
I can only comment from personal perspective.