Hi guys and girls...!!! Its nice to find a freindly forum for a change where everyones more or less on the same wavelength!

Just thought id tell you a bit about why i am here, just recently my g/f for two years and also the mother to my 8 month old son max broke up with me... She said she had been thinking about it for a few weeks now and decided to drop the bomb on me while she was drunk while we where out with friends for her 18th birthday.. i figured i blame the drink cos she always chats crap when she's had a few but i later found she was telling the truth. I just come to a complete halt as i felt my heart crumble, her excuse was "im 18 now and she wants to do what 18yr old girls, she accepts she has responsibilty with max but she wants to have "fun" and wants to make her own mistakes and wants to experiment with new things." I accepted what she had to say and just thought well if she dont want me anymore then thats her decision and i have to accept that... it was killing me inside but i have put a brave face on for long enough i just forgot about it and decided to just get on with my life.... but what she keeps saying which really screws me up is that she says she dont know whats going to happen in the future she may want to get back together........ Im stuck peeps i just want to say get over it and carry on.. i know its easier said than done with max being in the equation.... but what would you do?? Please help! Luv you all!

From my past experience (had that said to me too) I would say dont go there, just sounds like she wants to keep you in the background & if things dont work out for her she thinks/knows you will be there to fall back on. Live for today, get on with your life & look to your future & not the past, you will always have Max & thats the most important thing, just dont be a doormat for your ex, you deserve more than that, believe me .......I know.

Be happy..........x

see i figured that might be the best course of action but wasnt sure if that was too harsh? I want to still be with her but for max's benefit... i want him to grow up in a family that all love each other... i spose at least i can tell him when he grows up it was his mothers fault?

I have to agree with Vixen.

And..Not all families are love and all that. Even if the families are still together..doesn't mean it's a very loving family.

And telling him when he grows up that it was his mothers fault will NOT help the situation. Believe me. It will just make it very difficult when your son is older.

He can still grow up in a family with love - whether you and his mother are together or not. It will take work, but still. Don't just be with her for your son's benefit.