I'm not the most handsome bloke in the world. I carry a few extra pounds and have no idea about current fashions, I just try to dress smartly.

My real question is, do you think there is any such thing as being in someone's league. I used to think so but now I'm not so sure.

There was this girl I used to work with. I've adored her from the moment I laid eyes on her. But I never told her how I felt because I didn't think I was good enough. Which is silly, why aren't I good enough?

Now it's too late, she's in a long-term relationship, and although we remain great friends I miss her every day.

Anyone else ever missed an opportunity because didn't see the good inside themselves?

i think "leagues" lie in an un confident persons mind.

I think i am ugly myself but i have had a few stunners for girlfriends and a lot of people tell me im anything but ugly, being told your good looking from your pictures alone is great as the person is judging your looks not you, having confidence off-line is what will break you into any "league" you may perceive.

remember, those who dont ask, dont get
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uh huh i agree with ryan!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if you like what you see, then go for it. Just don't fall to hard if you get a knock back. If someone is not interested in you, then that's their loss! That's the way I look at things.

You don't have to be good looking to be a nice person & a relationship based on looks alone, is bound to fail.
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Men are 5 to 6 ft long, hairy, smelly things that drink too much and fart in bed. Its a wonder that women find us attractive at all. I have seen some upright gorillas that can barely keep their knuckles above the ground land some stunners, I don't think there is such a thing as leagues because God in his wisdom made love blind.

(i hope im right, cause im fecked otherwise )

It is a confidence thing.

Unfortunely the majority of us probably feel we aren't in somebody elses league.

It isn't just about looks, though. If you know somebody, and know that they are brilliant, intelligent, funny...yet you may feel they are better than you just for that.

At the end of the day, you just have to believe in yourself and get that confidence.

the best thing to remember is we all have different tastes, its like food not everyone will like a dish just because it looks good, someone who may be attractive to one person may not be to another, and vice versa.

on that note, the same applies when looking at ones self, you may think you are butt-ugly but many people may think you are gorgeous, the same again, in vice versa
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Everyone is their own worst critic and will often find ways to put yourself down, …that’s certainly true of myself. But as it’s been said “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and everyone is looking for something different in a partner. Saying that someone is out of your league is closing the door on a chance that may never come again, …bite the bullet, make a move and you may be surprised.