god its so hard looking for love when you're a single parent.i'm single for almost 2 years now and only recently started going out again.but it's hard when when youngest child is only 12 and his dad dose'nt take him for the weekends.i have to rely on my parents to have him over night which i cant do each weekend so its once a month for me.it makes me angry knowing my ex is out every weekend with no responibilities to tie him down.how am i supposed to meet the man of my dreams(if theres such a person for either sex).

I know its hard.... as i have found that when i do get the oppertunity to actually get out when my ex has the boys that i find myself then stuck with no one to actually go ot with!! Most of my friends are still married or have partners and my only single friend works shifts and trying to juggle around those and when i have the boys appears to be a neverending task! Hence! i end up just sitting in alone!
Whats the answer?? i have no idea? and i am so opposed to venturing out on my own!

i'm the same... my ex is out there doing whatever it is that he does...(not a whole bloody lot when we were together anyhow) while i have the kids 24/7. dont get me wrong i love my kids and love being able to spend time with them. but i do resent the lifestyle my ex may or may not have created for himself.... at least he had the chance.

my mother will take one of them for one night at the wkend if she can and my granny will take the other one. but i have to be down early in the morning to collect them so can't really take off somewhere. it's quite frustrating. my youngest is only 3 so i can't take him away for a weekend either.

oh blah. but hey in ten years my daughter can babysit.

i love my son greatly but just once every 2 weeks it would be great if we had time out from each other.i do everything for him(except bath him lol).i pay all his expenses for school,days out,medical and treats while his father drinks like a fish each night(alcoholic,thats why i threw him out).i know we all have crosses to bear in life but does complete boredom have to be one?
i'm starting to get really fed up,all my mates are married/couples and i'm like the odd one out.i do go out with 2 single mates but its only once a month.the law should make it compulsory for the other parent to take the child atleast every 2nd w/end.im youmg and need FUN!!! LOL

im a single dad of a 11 year old son i know its hard ive been looking for 2 years it hard to find some one i dont go to bars

Hi..... well here is a good start! Lets hope wish you luck!
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im a single dad of 3 and my kids are with me every second week for an entire week i have 2 girls and 1 son their ages are 1/5/2 and i love them to bits. ive been looking for a while now for a partner or a companion to start sharing my life with and i find that a large amount of ladies allready have had their kids and are at their teenage stage and dont want to be tied down to any one ellse's which is quite understandable.
and others just dont want anyone with baggage and sometime guys with kids are often described in this fashion/ to actualy find a ladie that is understable of our situation is not easy to do so we just have to keep on looking there is alway some one for everyone its a matter of just fishing in the right place at the right time

Im a single mum of one (and thats how it will stay ha ha)

To be honest I havnt really had all that much trouble I have no family and have always just done what i have had to. My girl goes to her dads every seconed weekend so I suppose Im one of the lucky few parents that gets a breakand for her even more lucky as she gets to see her dad and spend time with him (so important in my opinion).

But something that my friends do that works as most of them dont get the break as I do is set up baby sitting within them selfs IE: Get a group of yourselfs and alternate babysitting and instead of paying each other babysit in return so that person also gets to go out for a night and so on

For obvious reasons this is something you can only do with people you trust but it can come in handy, help get some type of social life going and your also helping someone else get out of the house as well.

Just an idea though but can really work

good luck

i know how you feel cozy girl, i'm only 21 and have my little girl 24/7 i have to nag her dad for say a month or so before he will actually pick her up, i've given up now and just stay in , i must say this site has been a lifeline i can have more fun on here chatting to people than i do when i go out and realise everyone's dissapeared and setlling down lol. Keep a smile on your face and keep posting you'll get there in the end

I've got 2 boys and their mum is also reluctant to have them.
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Is so sad when children have two parents and yet only one of them love and support them.
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I am so sorry to hear that Red! Life is just not fair sometimes!! It must be heartbreaking in a situation like that. I think your Ex is a poop for not having more compassion to you and your childrens needs. He is obviously going out of his way to amke things difficult for you.
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Most of the time we get on fine, it's just this particular issue. He was the same when we were together and the girls dad would drive the 5 hrs up here and back because the boys dad refused to do any driving.

I know by law that if i don't have a vehicle, he should do the trip, but it would mean court and I just can't do it emotionally or financially.