I am a sindle dad, my son is one and a half and is my beautiful boy. I make sure i see him every day and he stays with me once a week. His mother is a good mum and she agree's that i am a good dad but will not reconcile our relationship because she no longer loves me. This is the reason we split.

Would you say it is fair that she makes all the desisions and i don't get a say cos she is the main care provider?

Discuss

Difficult to discuss without you telling us all the nitty gritty biz that went on between you, which prolly isn't a good idea here.
All I can tell you is my own situation. (my kids are 19 and 15 now).
I am/was the absent parent - very much like your situation, saw the kids almost daily, they stayed with me regularly etc.
The thing is, when we split up (amicably) we went to court (we were married still) and had what was called, if I recall correctly, a Residency Order - We both already agreed the kids would live with their dad - the judge agreed and gave us Equal Parenting Rights.
It meant that the kids dad could not take the kids abroad, move house, change schools etc. without my agreement - something we've never, ever had to actually refer to cuz we get on well and respect each other's views on stuff involving our boys.
We did it mainly cuz our eldest boy had huge psychological issues/high functioning autism and being aged 7 at the time he needed to know/understand what was going on in his life/our lives.
Maybe that's something you could look into?
Good luck.

YOU HAVE TO WATCH HOW YOU APPROACH THIS RECENDICY THING WITH KIDS AS I FOUGHT THRO COURT FOR OVER 5 YRS FOR MY SON WONT GO INTO THE DETAILS BUT AT THE END OF IT ALL I WAS LEFT WITH WAS ONCE A FORTNIGHT WITH MY SON ONCE THE FEMALE TURNS NASTY US MEN END UP WITH NO RIGHTS WHATSOEVER IN COURT REGARDLESS OFF THE WOMANS BEHAVIOUR

IT ALL LEANS TOWARDS THE WOMAN IN THESE THINGS IN A CHILD COURT US MEN ARE CLASSED AS CRIMINALS, WIFE BEATERS,DRUNKS,ETC. IN FACT ANYTHING THE WOMAN WANTS TO MAKE UP TO GET HER OWN WAY AND DESTROY UR CHARACTER SHE NEEDS NO PROOF JUST HER SAY SO

SO IF YOU CAN SORT IT OUT PEACEFULLY I WOULD HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT .........OR BE PREPARED FOR THE LONG HAUL THRO COURT

Are you married to the mother ???? believe me it makes alot of difference and from personal experience, if you are married to her, you have just as much if not more rights than her. If your not married then i would apply for 'parental consent' which gives you just as much rights. I would say however i would keep the arrangements in regard to access as friendly as possible, it sounds like your doing that at the moment, but believe me it probably wont stay like that forever, so best to go and see a solictor so you know what all your rights are. You sound like you are a great Dad, which is the main thing .......... x

Yes, she has custody. I have two kids that dont even live in the same country as me. Have not seen them for three years let alone talk to them on the phone on a regular basis. She calls the shots unfortunately as she has the custody adn can decide what relationship i have with the kids. Now whether or not i am in the USA or not is irrelevant as she is even then able to dictate terms. Sh just wants to make it difficult for me to talk with the kids.

At least you have it better than me so try not to complain too much to her about it as she could make matters a lot worse for you.