Is thee anyone else out there who is put off relationships...not for any cynical reason but just the thought that if it all goes pair shaped again I would hate another dad not to live with his child??My ex doesnt see our daughter half as much as I would like hime too...but still its not nice is it....?

Once bitten and all that, yeah I feel like that ALL the time.
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i think if you can let go of the past you might feel differently...carrying old baggage into a new relationship is very unfair, and will probably cause the new relationship to fail...best wishes anyhow

I dont think its about baggage particulalry....just about being aware what can happen...it wouldnt make me say no to George Clooney..

oh sorry, i though you may have been feeling a wee bit of mistrust...we probably all feel a bit of apprehension going into something new, but sure if the right chemistry is there, thatll soon wear off

your probably right.....i am probably analysing it way too much..

youre not alone, i think we all do that at times...well i do anyway...lol...

all the best

Hi there,

I have met this guy and he expects me to degrade myself to his childrens level. his words to me was: " your standards ar so high, are you prepared to be on the same level as my children?"
they do not even greet anyone or help their dad in the house. he comes home from work and must stil do washing cleaning ironing and cooking everyday. the 2 girls aged 15 and 16 rather go to their friends or just laze around. i feel they do not respect him at all.

HELP gice me some advice please. am i the one that is expecting too much from others, for i believe if you respect yourself then you will respect others as well. i brought my children up with respect for themselves as well as others. and to be neat and tidy at all times.