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Home >> Single Parents >> Are you an unmarried father?
27.07.2006, 19:06 quote
Found out that if you are an unmarried father and even on the birth certificate as father, if it was registered b4 december 2003, you have no parental rights regarding your child.
NOTE..if you are married or on a registered birth certificate AFTER december 2003 then you automatically have parental responsibility, so all is well. Woman automatically get it, married or not.
2003 is when the new legislation came into effect..and to get parental responsibilty for your child you have to draw up a parental responsibiltiy agreement with the mother, even if living with them..
Without it, if you split, the mother can take your child abroad, change schools, change childs surname etc...and you have no say whatsoever..You wouldnt even be able to say 'yes' to a life saving operation if child needed it..
Getting a form, getting it signed all costs nothing..
just thought it was worth posting about..lol
27.07.2006, 22:49 quote
Interesting, you can see where 'fathers for justice' come from...
I wonder how many avoid it to avoid the CSA - sorry if this is cynical
28.07.2006, 06:19 quote
ladytracexx wrote: |
I would never deny my children their dad. After all they are the innocent ones caught in the middle! |
Well said Trace, sadly some mothers use their children as weapon (if you like) to get at the father, very wrong indeed (proving the children haven't been harmed by the father previously)
28.07.2006, 07:55 quote
And thats My story Ringer, And it was all my fault she was sleeping with my best buddy, Ha ha ha , My Ex was and is a Bitch, Any way she can she uses the kids. I was Lucky mind ya, we wernt married and I had went to the courts and sought joint custody and joint guardianship, and got it no priblem, that was 3 years ago, The law in ireland for unmarried fathers is a joke, women tend to play the same old tune in front of a judge, and the judge takes pity and nails the man to the cross, she Gets all benifits and her Bonus from the father, Its mad but sure look,
28.07.2006, 09:41 quote
I did the same as yourself to an extent, I went to court to get access to my son, I got it np.
She tried the old he used to beat me up etc etc (which I didn't do), the judge said he wasn't interested, he only had the child's welfare at interest.
I was asked why I hadn't try to see my son for a 3 month period, to which I replied, i got a letter from ex's solicitor telling me to keep away from the property.........Oh just how it all back fired on her
My sons almost 21 now and he doesn't speak with me, his mother has poisoned him I guess??
Maybe he will come to his senses one day?
28.07.2006, 11:02 quote
Just found a couple of recent-ish pics of him on the net
Does he look like me, I can certainly tell you he is my son, not that any of you would or have said otherwise
28.07.2006, 11:59 quote
He does , Give it time,They say time is a great healer. my kids are only 5 and 6, And i have along road ahead, i love every moment i spend with then, she has tried her best to poison then, but My honest deep down love for them always wins, and they love been with me, the judge in ?????? is a wanker, he was an alcoholic, and now he believes a woman is right, I am not saying there is bad bad men out ther, but they make it harder on the rest of us, All i can do is be there as much as i can, Life would never be the same without them and thats why I WILL NOT LET EVIL WIN OVER
28.07.2006, 15:01 quote
whizzer wrote: |
Interesting, you can see where 'fathers for justice' come from...
I wonder how many avoid it to avoid the CSA - sorry if this is cynical |
i am led to believe that getting this agreement has no bearing or effect regarding CSA..and it also is not a means of gaining any visiting rights with the child either..
and yes i agree..you can see where 'fathers for justice' are coming from..
03.08.2006, 20:31 quote
jizhomer wrote: |
Hi all, this isn't how I imagined my first post here to be!
I split from my partner 3 years ago, access has nearly always not been a problem, her new partner is the issue. He thinks that because he lives with them, does the shopping, pays the bills etc that makes him "more" of their Dad than me. The point of this is that a few weeks ago my youngest gave me reason to believe her boyfriends getting a bit heavy with his discipline, I tried talking to them about it but that wasn't happening. I had no choice but to seek the help of social services... And now they tell me that by law they're not allowed to tell me ANYTHING about it! Being the kids Dad doesn't mean anything legally unless you live with them, or fight through the courts when you don't. It's wrong! |
firstly ..hi and welcome. I am saddened to hear about your current state of affairs. It is very hard when the ex has a new partner and is acting as 'the dad'. I myself am in the exact same postion ie.ex has new fellow..
below is some links that may be of help to you and maybe explain things and were you stand..this is how i started..i hope these will be of some use to you too.
I ended up getting parental responsibilty, which means now i am recognised in law as the childs father, and do have a say in things..
http://www.fathersdirect.com/index.php?id=13&cID=385
http://www.fnf.org.uk/childact.htm#resorder
03.08.2006, 21:12 quote
I know this is a wrong thing to say, but if my daughter ever shows signs of being abused, and by signs i mean any marks, i would do what i could using the law, but also i would have to say i wouldnt hesitate to sort out the bloke who done it as well..
i am not advocating violence or suggessting this is the way forward in any way, but this is what i know i would have to do as her father..it would be instinctual i'm afraid for me..sod the law..
09.08.2006, 18:19 quote
donkeypants wrote: |
Any idea how I would get my daughters birth certificate amended? as she has no father recorded on hers; her mother is fine with me getting this done. |
hi..this website should be able to help you i believe..
believe you just need to get a form (states which one on this site) and complete..hope it helps with your query..
10.08.2006, 17:04 quote
ahh...yeah ..that would be the one..
so sorry...
http://www.lincolnshire.gov.uk/section.asp?docId=30398
see...even men have their blonde days too..lol
15.08.2006, 18:06 quote
53846 wrote: |
Found out that if you are an unmarried father and even on the birth certificate as father, if it was registered b4 december 2003, you have no parental rights regarding your child.
NOTE..if you are married or on a registered birth certificate AFTER december 2003 then you automatically have parental responsibility, so all is well. Woman automatically get it, married or not. 2003 is when the new legislation came into effect..and to get parental responsibilty for your child you have to draw up a parental responsibiltiy agreement with the mother, even if living with them.. Without it, if you split, the mother can take your child abroad, change schools, change childs surname etc...and you have no say whatsoever..You wouldnt even be able to say 'yes' to a life saving operation if child needed it.. Getting a form, getting it signed all costs nothing.. just thought it was worth posting about..lol |
brilliant. lmao. so my ex has no say. fkn A. i can bring em on holiday without having to get him to sign the passport form??
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