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30.09.2008, 11:47 quote

freemannow
Joined: 25 Jul 2008 Posts: 66 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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I am saying this because all people think about is the mums,why do you tnink that is?

 

30.09.2008, 12:22 quote

rocketgirl
rocketgirl Joined: 17 Jun 2008 Posts: 1914 Location: United Kingdom, England, Hampshire
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What makes you say that?


The one that really used to get right up my nose was the Iceland advert (frozen food shop) with the slogan "Mum's gone to Iceland". Presumably we were supposed to think that even in a duo-parent family, *mum* does the shopping, not dad?

My ex brought our kids up and I sing his praises wherever I go. I am a staunch supporter of single dads, yes they get a bum deal usually in the judicial system Dads have to fight harder than mums - under normal circumstances.

I guess its a mixture of several things:
single dads are still in the minority
the people 'in charge' in the courts are still of an age where they were brought up themselves to believe the childs place should be with the mother
there is still a social stigma of embarrassment and awkwardness that a dad would choose to bring up his kids alone - I have a friend not much older than me who when she was a small child her mum died of cancer, she was automatically sent to an orphanage because her dad worked full-time.....no one I dont suppose even bothered back then to look at the alternatives. Confused

 

30.09.2008, 16:29 quote

funkychick1
funkychick1 Joined: 19 Apr 2008 Posts: 1767 Location: United Kingdom, England, West Midlands
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Give then credit for what ?????? doing the same job as single mum's do ......... we dont get that much credit ourselves.

If anything if guy tells you he is a single parent bringing up his children on his own ....... he seems to get 'oh that's so great' 'it must be so hard for you' etc ........ they do exactly the same as millions of single mums ........ so why do they need extra credit.

In my experience with courts and mum's supposedly getting it easy ........ i had to pay £2000 for the courts to tell my ex husband he was basically being a prick ....... and go away and put his daughter first instead of his own feelings, so no, not in all cases to women get preferential treatment.

Rant over ............

 

30.09.2008, 17:22 quote

rocketgirl
rocketgirl Joined: 17 Jun 2008 Posts: 1914 Location: United Kingdom, England, Hampshire
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"If anything if guy tells you he is a single parent bringing up his children on his own ....... he seems to get 'oh that's so great' 'it must be so hard for you' etc ........ they do exactly the same as millions of single mums ........ so why do they need extra credit".

Like I said before, people go the extra mile with praise for single dads because of the reasons I outlined above that it still isn't the 'expected social norm".
You are right AM in that context, single dads should *not* get 'extra credit' compared to single mums.
I got the feeling that the OP was meaning single dads are still relatively 'forgotten'.

 

30.09.2008, 18:21 quote

s6boystu
s6boystu Joined: 06 Mar 2008 Posts: 2074 Location: United Kingdom, England, Essex
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the above two replies have pretty much covered everything i was going to say except this..

When you become a parent, there's more important things to consider than "taking credit" for doing a good job of it wether your the mother or the father..
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01.10.2008, 05:59 quote

LittleVixen
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s6boystu wrote:
the above two replies have pretty much covered everything i was going to say except this..

When you become a parent, there's more important things to consider than "taking credit" for doing a good job of it wether your the mother or the father..


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11.10.2008, 16:20 quote

snaithman
snaithman Joined: 05 Aug 2008 Posts: 2638 Location: United Kingdom, England, East Yorkshire
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No I probably will not.

 
 
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