WHY IS IT THAT MEN SEEM TO SHY AWAY FROM SINGLE WOMAN WITH KIDS...ITS NOT AS IF THEY DONT HAVE KIDS THEMSELVES...OR AM I JUST BEING PARANOID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its the same here in the United States, I have been a single mom for 13 years and my son 16. not like he wont be out of the house soon. Take care you will find someone, I might just have from being online, but mines out of canada. Good Luck to you.

I respect anyman that has taken on the responsiblity of raising kids on their own , for whatever reason. True, it must be hard on the men, women want their own kids, pure selfishness, or jealousy. The older you get the wiser you get and realize if a match is made it is gonna be with the whole package. I have raised my son, but if there was a man that had children and we clicked that would be happiness. cheers to you for being their for your kids.
Aluria

i have been a single mom for 12yrs and i respect any man for bringing up their kids there are a lot of men out there that say they want kids and then leave when the going gets tough..

HI BIGG5268....WELL I AGREE WITH YOU WHOLEHEARTEDLY...WE DO DESERVE SOME HAPPINESS...WHEN THAT WILL BE HEAVEN ONLY KNOWS...HOPE YOU FIND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR

Well personally I certainly wouldnt run from a woman with a kid and seeing as I have a daughter Im pretty sure I would be good with him/her but part of the worry for me is that I would end up in a scenario where Im raising and spending time with someone elses kid instead of my own who is ironically, spending time and living with another man.

my son is 16 and pretty much gonna be on his own in 2 years, so does that mean I need to wait for that special man, I dont think so, there are so many men out there and again I say if they dont appreciate what I have to offer besides my son, its there loss all the way around and upside down lol

i have two kids. a six year old girl and a three year old boy. to be honest i dont find that my kids scare off the men. the simple fact is... i only date guys comfortable with the fact that i have children.

perfect example of where i was scared off. lol

my last ex.. he has a three year old son too. and at the weekends he would bring his son over to sleep in mine with my kids. he spent all day hitting my kids and being a bully and you cant really give out to someone else's child can ya. so i listened to him saying.."relax" or "be good" and other such insufficient scoldings. he then spent all night AWAKE. he would only sleep when when it got to around 2am after destroying my house and eating every sugar coated thing in sight. i am up at 6am with my two as they go to bed at 7pm. his son would then get up and him being dead tired would stay in bed while i looked after his son. it was just not worth it. i know i might sound like the kettle calling the pot black but i have enough to do with my own kids, and so after a few months of this i gave up.

I cant believe u let someone like that near ur kids never mind in your house ???

i cant believe that there are still people out there that run when u mention kids. like i'm 23 and a father of a 2 year old girl, when i'm out clubbing or whatever, i always make it my business to say i have a kid. then u get to enjoy watching yet another shallow person do a runner.
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It's not like i'm looking for someone to take her mom's place, she has a mom, but it would be nice if there were girls/women that would at least hear your side of things before they make themselves out to be false.

open to comments on this one

You know what I find difficult is that guys will still be interested in me, but not in my child. My little girl in my world, she is in my life, whether some random guy hanging on me likes it or not. I want someone in my life so much, a boyfriend to love me, but not at the expense of my child. Do you know what I mean? Does that resonate with anyone else?

Maybe it's just that I'm young. I'm 21, and the boys I date tend to be in that range. They acknowledge that I have a kid and sort of nod at her and then scurry me away from her and make sure we can be as far away from her as possible. It's terrible.

I think it must take a certain amount of acceptance and MATURITY to be able to date someone with a child that isn't yours...

Life is what it is, most expect to find a mate, marry and have children. They know there are side roads and distractions but their expectations are to follow the standard path. For those who find themselves on a different path need to collect yourselves together and pick from the group.

Not sure where single parents enjoy "off" time, but you must find where it is whether it is church activities, social clubs, school affairs dedicated just to parents and those interested in becoming a parent. People of like minds and experiences make better partners in marriage and children are what marriage is mostly about.

I have found that once attracted to a woman and I get use to the idea of how we interact together, I find children a joy. A man is first attracted to the mother, once that is set the children are a responsibility or job he finds gratifying. But he must first feel secure with the relationship.

If you meet someone independent from the presence of children he will be focused on you alone. That is good, so keep that focus for awhile until you know each other and find you can work well together. He can know about children but not meet them straight away.

All things in life take time, like wine, to mature ... same for relationships.

Just my opinion from my experiences,

Love ya,
Thomas

hi all..I'm a single dad of 2, haven't dated any one for more than two years..from what i've seen men are more easy accepting another mans children and women are mostly the opposite, they find it harder to accept another womans child...can anyone tell me why?....I also find that single women with no kids, think you are only looking for a mother for your children and not a partner. Finding love again is not easy when you have kids, but I'm sure at some point love will find us again...hang in there and don't give up! Keep loving your kids and be the best parent you can be and the rewards will come your way.....

Love and cupid will come and find you when you least expect it so just enjoy your life and being with your family and friends.

I am recently a single dad and through ill health, i have been looking after my son and the home for the past year or so up until my ex who only cared for herself wanted out of the relationship. I am now seeking residence of my son as she is just trying to use my son in a nasty way against me. I am willing to risk girls running away from me because i am a single dad as my son is the most important person to me at the end of the day.

As you get older, you will realise that age is just a number we carry. I am 32 and just feel like a wise 18 year old at heart and probably always will do.

I'm proud to be a dad single or not and also hope myself like anyone i suppose that i won't be single forever. Just be patient hon. Best of luck too ya

i haven't found being a single mum a problem, infact if i take her out she pulls the guys for me lmao lil devil. i think society has become a lot mor lenient these days just have to wait for someone right to come along